I’m feeling amazing, but as I think ahead to my busy fall/winter schedule I begin to stress and freak out! I am a naturally anxious person and I stress over everything; if I wasn’t stressed out, that would mean I’m dead. For anyone reading along who deals with stress and anxiety, I understand how hard it can be to balance love, life, work, money, goals, and free time, but don’t worry loves…you’re not alone! Take a deep breath and don’t forget to appreciate the beautiful moments. It never gets easier, but you get better…*
I’m ENGAGED…holy crap! I’m going to marry my best friend and I cannot tell you how excited and happy I am. I’m also in my third trimester (29 weeks pregnant) and I am ready for my baby shower! It’s a beautiful, busy time for me, but I’m enjoying every minute of it.
I want to touch on how a person’s past can affect the way they love, express themselves, and exist in a current relationship. I, for example, am in a beautiful place and I’m so thankful for the amazing man I’m with, but I went through hell in my past when it comes to love and relationships. I now know what a truly loving and inspiring relationship looks and feels like, because of what I’ve found with Andrew. In my past, I was lied to, cheated on, betrayed, and made to feel like an idiot countless times, and although as women, we don’t let go of anything (I will talk more about that in the next paragraph), I’ve healed from my past. Does my past still occasionally affect the way I think, act, and express myself? Yes, of course! The past isn’t something to run from, my loves…it is something to learn from. We will trust, live, and think differently after being hurt and that is natural. We should always be open to changing and growing and our past actually helps us to do so. Yes, we may have days where our past experiences negatively impact us…for example, if you were cheated on and lied to, certain actions and instances may make you feel insecure. Social media has a way of screwing with our minds when it comes to insecurities. A fight with your significant other may stir up old emotions and make you feel the way you did years prior, but remember…the past cannot hurt you, but it can strengthen you. Allow your past to be a reminder, but never a hindrance.*
Now, ladies…let us talk about something that I truly love about us girls (I find it confusing and amusing, but we can all relate); we don’t let go of anything. Men, this would be a great time to take note and learn a little bit. Women do heal; we move forward, we forgive, but we never forget. We remember the insult our enemy in eighth grade threw our way (“You’re fat”, “You’re a slut” because you kissed ONE guy, etc.), which catapulted us into feeling insecure over something ridiculous. We remember our first fight with our ex and everything that person did to hurt, annoy, and damage us, from comments to massive fights, to disrespect. We remember everything! Women are mysterious creatures and aren’t wired to dump information off on the side of the road (that would be far too easy). Instead, we pack all of our insecurities, memories (good and bad), and experiences (especially when it comes to love) into a pretty, over sized duffel bag (you can probably mentally picture what your “duffel bag” looks like), and we move forward with our baggage. We enter our new relationship and although we may feel completely safe, loved, and happy, we still keep our duffel bag with us at all times, because we may need some of the information packed away in there to win an argument, deal with a moment of insecurity, or we want to piss someone off. This is just one of many things I love about being a girl and one thing that all women can smile, agree, and laugh about.
Regardless of how you store your past experiences, ladies and gents, don’t ever let the pain from your past keep you from moving forward. You’re strong, amazing, and I know that you can get through just about anything. I know this because I learned not to fear the storm, but become the storm. Be the force that shakes the ground and awakens everyone around you.
Today is the first day of fall!!! If you haven’t already shopped around for new, fall merchandise, or stopped in to a local coffee shop (even Starbucks) for some pumpkin spice coffee…what’re you waiting for? GO! This is a magical time of the year and soon it will be time for ghosts, zombies, and scary movies…
I am going to give you a list of a few of my favorite fall movies (some are Halloween themed) to binge watch this weekend! Include your best friend or significant other and cuddle up with some popcorn, or maybe some candy corn? 🙂
- Hocus Pocus
- Autumn in New York
- Fly Away Home
- Halloween (the original)
- October Sky
- Friday Night Lights
- The House of Yes
- You’ve Got Mail
- The Nightmare Before Christmas
- The Blair Witch