Hi, loves! Wow…I’m 30 weeks pregnant (only TWO full months left until we meet our little angel) and I’m loving the beginning of fall. I’m definitely ready for even cooler temperatures, though. I’m so beyond busy with home renovations (including the nursery), getting ready for my baby shower this Saturday, and of course, the usual daily tasks.
I’ve been thinking a lot this week about how insanely lucky I am to have Andrew as my lover and partner, along with how amazing it is that at any age, you can simply start over. I was once in a relationship, which can only be compared to an emotional roller coaster ride and it wasn’t healthy for me. I felt alone, insecure, and scared with my ex, and I can only blame myself for not walking away sooner, but as we all know…change is terrifying. When our relationship finally came to an end, I was a different person and fiercely independent. I didn’t need him or anyone else around me to validate my life, values, or goals. I knew who I was, what I wanted, and what I deserved and I was going to get everything I wanted and needed. I decided I was never going to settle again. I threw myself into work, new passions, and having fun (without a man). I started ballroom dancing and met my first and forever favorite dance partner, Franddy who worked with me for two years, helping me grow and become stronger, and not just as a ballroom dancer, but as a girl starting over. We tend to fear letting go, because we’re unsure of what lies ahead. There’s always light and new adventures at the end of the tunnel, but we must walk through the unknown darkness in order to reach the light. This week I want anyone in a toxic, unhealthy, or unsatisfying relationship to let go. It’s damaging to your emotional health and soul to continue watering a flower that is no longer alive. It may be time to invest in a new plant!
It also may be scary at first, starting over and drawing out a new path, but there’s so much beauty ahead (I promise). I can say this proudly and confidently, because I lived it. I went a year without a man by my side, after my ex left (the first month was a little lonely), but I never looked back. I learned a lot, did a lot, and grew a lot, and when I met Andrew out of the blue (I was not looking for a new man), I never felt so sure about anything in my entire life. I knew from the second I met Andrew, that he was it for me…he was the one. I found my very own, real fairy tale. I love him so deeply and I wake up every morning feeling thankful and happy. I feel safe with him and my favorite place to be at the end of the day is in his arms. I love you baby…
If you’re with someone who doesn’t give you the world, walk away. Life is too short and you don’t want to watch the clock tick by, regretting who you’re with and where you are. If you ended it with someone recently, or years back and you’re still trying to find a new flame and a balance, it will all come. Everything happens for a reason and falls into place. Don’t lose your spark or your motivation and continue living your best life. I want this weekly post of L&L by Lizzie to give everyone who needs it, hope. I promise that you’re strong and if you’re feeling broken down, this too shall pass. If you’re not ready to be with another person, don’t rush…walk slowly and patiently.
Hello, October! It’s already our favorite, spooky month and it’s time to decorate for Halloween/fall, plan fun adventures, and shop for some sweaters! Despite my huge home renovations happening right now (new wood flooring, a brand new nursery, painting, etc.) I am still decorating for fall. My deck/porch greets you with mums and pumpkins (I’m adding lanterns with LED candles to light up each night). Simple and pretty is always better in my book, and much easier in order to transition from early fall days to Halloween. I’ve begun buying fall lounge-wear (lots of Calvin Klein) and sweaters/cardigans; I’ve transitioned into fall nail colors (dark brown, burgundy, gold, grey, etc.), fall lip colors (dark mauve, nude, browns, and burgundy), and fall shoe styles (wedges, sneakers, flats, and boots). The weather is still unsure of itself with much of the week being around 80 degrees (ugh, bring on the 60’s), which makes dressing for fall irritating. I’ve been rocking dresses and wedges, or leggings and a tank top, with a kimono (which helps with keeping the layers light, while still representing fall). What are some of my favorite fall outfit ideas?
I love a sweater, leggings, and a cute pair of sneakers…you can dress this look up a little more with a scarf or a choker necklace, OR keep it simple and comfortable. I love this look, because you can wear it while running errands, going to the movies, or, even while spending a day in the city.
I love a simple dress paired with a light cardigan (or kimono) and depending on the weather, a bootie (or knee-high boot), or a wedge! If it’s still reaching high temperatures, like it is this week, going with a pair of wedges is perfect. You can even opt for an open-toed look, which works with the upper fall-temps.
I want to update y’all on a little insider information…as a marketing assistant, a fashion enthusiast, and as someone who worked in retail management for a while I have seen so much behind the scenes in the fashion/retail world. I do a lot of social media marketing for stores and restaurants, I window shop every week, and I keep up on the latest (because it’s my job AND because I love every minute of it). With all of that being said, this time of year is actually pretty slow for certain retail stores, and not because they aren’t filled with beautiful, new, fall merchandise, but because this time of year is spent PLANNING. This is the time for weddings, births, baby showers, and bridal showers. My baby shower is this Saturday, I am due in December, AND I’m renovating my home before my due-date and the holidays. Fall is a time for change and preparation. A lot of people are spending money on events, opposed to designer clothing. We’re also pre-planning for the upcoming holiday season, but we’re not yet ready to fully commit to purchases and holiday essentials.
Sadly, the fashion world will definitely be undergoing changes (it already is). Michael Kors buying Versace, for example is a HUGE deal. Why is it a huge deal? What does that mean for the fashion industry? Versace is a name which defines luxury, high-end fashion, and that name is beyond my generation. My mom’s generation, and her mother’s generation grew up viewing Versace as a top, respected name in the world of fashion. Now, Michael Kors (who is a part of the newer generation) bought into that famous name. Michael Kors truly understands, that in order to bring together each generation and gear up for the years to come, high-end names need to merge with newer, trendier companies. My generation doesn’t have the funds that my parents have (and their generation) to splurge on designer buys and luxury items. We are, for the most part, living quite differently than the generations before us. We’re the ones who’ve begun making the most out of smaller spaces, such as tiny homes. We spend more money on activities and at restaurants than at fashion-retail stores, which of course has affected the fashion industry. Some companies are blossoming and doing just fine, while others may need to take a look at who their current customer truly is and adjust (adjust pricing, advertising, and values).
I love fashion and retail. It’s a part of me, but that isn’t the norm for people my age. I grew up falling in love with design, art, fashion, and marketing. Some stores that I do marketing for currently are asking the necessary questions, some are a little concerned with their current numbers, and others are doing just fine…
If you DO have some extra money to spend on fashion this week, don’t forget to shop for sweaters, fall colors, and fall shoe styles!
I’m wishing everyone a beautiful and inspiring week…Happy October Xo
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