Hi, loves! I am sorry I didn’t post last weekend, but Andrew and I have been busy with home projects and baby planning. I’m 37 weeks pregnant (officially 9 months) and I am definitely ready for my little pumpkin to get here! I feel amazing, but it’s incredibly hard to sleep through the night. I am loving the cold weather and bundling up with a cute scarf, jacket, and hat! I hope you’re enjoying the end of November. Xo
The Holiday Season is fast approaching and last week I talked about how stressful this time of year can be when it comes to finances, especially in regards to Holiday planning and gifting, but this time of year also reminds us of our old baggage. Old baggage doesn’t usually come in cute duffel bags and travel size containers. Are you fighting with your lover about old emotions or issues? Are you feeling haunted by ghosts from your past? Well, you’re not alone! We find that old flames (significant or not), exes, and old friends reach out to us before the Holidays to rekindle a friendship, find closure, or simply check in. But, a simple check-in may make us feel crazy, upset, or confused. Some of us are even faced with a special visit from a family member we’ve left in the past. Whether you receive an actual call, text, or email from a ghost of your past who begins to haunt you, or you’re simply thinking about those who are no longer present in your life, don’t let anything affect your love life and where you are TODAY. Today is far more important than yesterday and if you’re feeling confused, upset, or insecure, you need to communicate with your significant other. Sometimes, we just need reassurance that everything is okay (despite our mind playing tricks on us).
The problem with ghosts is they remind us of our biggest fears, regrets, and darkest emotions. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good ghost story, but I am not a fan of unexpected visits from certain ghosts. Ladies, we have a tendency to hold onto our past (and the emotions that reside there) tighter than a designer handbag; it’s okay to remember the pain from our past, those who influenced us (negatively and positively), but it can also be damaging to unearth the past while in a healthy relationship. Remember, your new partner isn’t your ex. If you managed to find someone equally as awful as your past romance, then I suggest leaving your new lover in the past, too. I truly know how hard it is to move beyond pain, heartache, and betrayal, and I’ve spent many Holidays wondering, thinking, crying, and trying to start fresh. It is up to you and only you regarding how you handle a run in with a ghost from your past, but sometimes it’s healthier not to respond or engage. If seeing a person’s name appear on your phone, or running into a person gives you anxiety, it is your body and mind’s way of telling you to walk away and to close that chapter. I have learned that not every book deserves a second read.*
I wish you and your partner a beautiful Holiday Season and I don’t want you running from the past anymore, especially if you’re in a different, healthier place. Enjoy where you are and don’t allow anything or anyone to derail your own, personal progress. If you’re single, I don’t want you running back to someone who hurt you, simply because you’re lonely and feeling haunted. I also don’t want you worrying about finding the one…let the Holidays be about YOU. Light up the season with what makes you happy!
Everyone has been asking me what’s inside my hospital bag and since I’ll be delivering baby Greyson very soon, I decided to let my readers in on an exclusive tour of my hospital essentials!
Delivering a baby is scary, beautiful, and special, but what the heck do you bring? This is not a usual overnight bag packing mission and you’ll be there longer than a typical sleepover! You’ll also be uncomfortable at times, stressed, and tired. It’s a lot to take in and women stress over packing because there are too many unknown factors.
The hospital will supply you with what you truly need, but there are definitely must-haves that the hospital cannot provide you with! If you’re a glam mama like me, I know you’ll be worried about how you look, feel, etc., but your number one priority is breathing and delivering a healthy, beautiful baby. Don’t stress yourself out! When you arrive at the hospital be sure to have your ID and insurance card/information available because you will not want to waste much time looking for the important documentation, especially if you’re in pain. Once they’ve determined you’re in labor, it’s showtime! Make sure you have lip balm/chap-stick (knowing me I’ll probably arrive at the hospital with lipstick or lip gloss already applied lol), hair essentials (if you’re tying your hair back, etc.), your phone and charger. All of my essentials are in one, big bag (minus the Bobby pillow, extra pillows, and Andrew’s stuff). You never know when the exact moment you’ll go into labor is, what you’ll be wearing, how long you’ll be in labor for, or what you’ll actually end up using from your hospital bag, but you should be fully prepared.
Now, what’s inside my hospital bag? 🙂
- A plush, light pink Victoria’s Secret PINK robe
- A short, loose, black nightgown
- A black Isabel and Ingrid maternity bra (even though I won’t be breastfeeding, having a comfortable bra is a must*)
- Heart shaped nursing pads by Bamboobies (even if you’re not planning on breastfeeding, your boobs still need leak protection*)
- Cute, black-plaid slippers
- My going home outfit (a short, grey, long-sleeved, knit dress and a black and white leopard scarf)
- A knee-high pair of Victoria’s Secret PINK socks and a pair of gold, knee-high socks
- A pair of Victoria’s Secret PINK grey, jogger sweatpants, and a loose, black, long-sleeved top (a second comfy outfit for an overnight if needed*)
- A small bag filled with travel size shampoo, deodorant, conditioner, toothpaste, lotion, and a hairbrush, toothbrush, makeup wipes, hair ties, bobby pins, maxi pads (the ones intended for overnight protection), perfume, and dry shampoo
- A small bag of makeup essentials (foundation, mascara, two types of lipsticks, chap-stick, etc.)
- A small bag with Greyson’s essentials (a pacifier, baby blankets, a stuffed animal, three Ralph Lauren newborn outfits, and a Ralph Lauren newborn hat)
- Cotton, hipster underwear (a 6 pack)
- Phone charger
- A book (F. Scott Fitzgerald, of course)