Feng Shui in Your Life
When someone says Feng Shui I’m sure you think of rearranging your furniture until your space is balanced, and many of you may think it’s a silly concept. It’s so much bigger than simply rearranging furniture, lighting candles, and buying a new rug. Feng shui includes your home, your car, your workspace, and yourself. It’s not just about making a space look the best for you but it’s also about making your space and life feel the best, including your vehicle, wherever you work, and creating Feng Shui within yourself. Let’s get deep, mamas.
As a mama, I’ve talked before about feeling balanced and at peace to create a beautiful, zen life for you and your children. Well, Feng Shui is one way to help you create the life you’ve always wanted. Feng Shui is the Chinese art, or practice of creating harmonious surroundings that enhance the balance of yin and yang, as in arranging furniture or determining the placement of a house. Some people choose to move to a certain location, remain in a certain location, or remodel based off of how that space makes them feel. Many people lean towards certain colors because they create a mood. Whether you want airy, calming vibes or energetic, vibrant feelings, colors constantly affect us. Do you dress according to your mood? Do you light certain candles (scents) depending on how you’re feeling? If you do, you’re practicing Feng Shui.
I’m sure you’ve seen the yin and yang symbol as tattoos, wall art, and as jewelry. The well-known yin and yang symbol comes from Taoism/Daoism, a Chinese religion and belief system. The yin, the dark swirl, is associated with shadows, femininity, and the trough of a wave. Yang, the light swirl, represents brightness, passion, and growth. Together they create the balance we need to live, flourish, and grow. Feng Shui enhances the yin and yang in our lives, which makes the practice incredibly important. Don’t laugh when you’re repainting a room because the current color creates the wrong mood, or changing your diet to feel more balanced.
Feng Shui in your home is not only essential but it sets the tone for when you wake up and when you end your day, hopefully with a grateful heart. There are little rules to Feng Shui that take a lot of learning and understanding, but did you know that you shouldn’t have a television in your bedroom? Sorry. I don’t make the rules! I’ve learned from others and they’re right. A bedroom should be about two things…rest and sex. If you add a bunch of distractions they take away from a healthy sex life and getting the best sleep. If you can help it, turn off your phone or put it away as soon as you’re in bed. Electronics are not only a distraction, but they have also been linked to insecurities and a negative self-image, which makes sense if we obsess over materialism and social media before bed. There also shouldn’t be any clutter under your bed, because that promotes a bad sleep. Of course, if you have limited space and storage and you use the underneath of your bed for items, make sure everything is neat and organized. You should be able to see your bedroom door from your bed, which means its in command position (you’re in control). Also, make your bed every day…it’s a simple way to stay focused and organized and it’s so nice to come home to a pretty, made bed.
Colors? You can paint a room whatever color you’d like, but each color represents something different and as I mentioned before, brings about a different mood. Neutral, light colors, such as white and beige ground you to the earth. Dark colors make a space cozier, which is great for a bedroom, or an office. Red, orange, and yellow are energy colors that promote positivity, motivation, and action, which would work well in a home gym, for example. Blue represents birth (renewal), purple represents royalty, and white represents purity. It all depends on your theme and the mood you want each room to create. Personally, I always aim for my bedroom to be cozy and intimate (sex, sleep, and renewal), my living room to be airy, light, and fun (friends, drinks, and activity), my bathroom and kitchen to be clean and organized (functionality), and Greyson’s room to be grounded to the earth and positivity (memories, growth, and sleep).
Feng Shui in your home is all about surrounding yourself with clear and fresh energy; you don’t want anything negative or stagnant around you. If you’re still holding onto possessions from past relationships, items from relatives you’re not fond of, or simply things that don’t make you smile…start a donation pile! Feng Shui is about free-flowing energy, which means your space should actually promote change. If you change up a room every so often, even in a very minimal way, that’s a good thing. No, I am not telling you to buy a new sofa every month or repaint every week, but buy new candles, maybe new pillows, and constantly see what works best for you in the present. Cleanliness is also so important and promotes a healthy environment, just like washing your hair and skin promotes a healthy body. I vacuum every single day and I always make sure my home is free my clutter, mess, and dirt. Of course, you will drop a crumb or track in some dirt from time to time, but always remember to clean. Cleaning purifies your environment. Your entryway to your home and to different rooms should always be clean and free from clutter. An entryway is literally where the energy walks in and enters the space and your front door/main entryway is your first impression to the world.
To avoid negative Feng Shui avoid:
- Blocked doors
- Broken objects
- Objects that hold negative or unwanted energy
- Messy closets
- Dusty objects and corners of the room
- Clutter under the bed
Anyone who knows me knows that details are very important to me, such as the details in my home, the moments in my life, and the clothes I wear. Yes, some call it being a perfectionist or OCD, but it’s not about being perfect…I know I am not perfect, it’s about mindfulness and slowing it down. If you slow it down and focus on all of the tiny details you realize what you want and what you don’t, what works and what doesn’t. The same rules apply to your workplace, your vehicle, and anywhere you go. Ensure the space is balanced, healthy, and makes you feel good.
Feng Shui Within Yourself
Yes, you can Feng Shui yourself and it’s pretty easy! Just like your home you need to take care of yourself, which starts with what you eat, what you do during the day, and your mindset. Start each morning off with a thankful, grateful, positive mindset and try to keep that up throughout the day. Eat as healthy as you can and food should always be a celebration. If you’re on a diet that makes you miserable and you feel worse after eating, that diet needs to go. Food is meant to be filling, fun, and adventurous. Drink so much water during the day because water promotes a healthy body and skin. It literally washes away your issues, so put down the soda, or whatever else you drink and swallow some H20. Take some time for yourself, whether you go and get a manicure, take a hot shower, lay out in the sun and tan, or you meditate. Take a breather and remind yourself every day that you’re worth it. Anyone or anything that promotes a negative self-image in your life shouldn’t be there. I unfollow anyone on social media that makes me feel insecure or who are filled with negativity, I don’t spend time with people who aren’t positive and full of good vibes, and I don’t go anywhere negative…life is about balance and happiness. Fill your life with yin and yang and you’ll be just fine.
Greyson, you bring so much love and light to my life and I cannot even remember who I was before becoming your mama. I want you to remember these important points as you grow into an incredible, loving, little boy…
- Always see the glass as half full, not half empty
- Don’t leave a mess in your space or in other people’s lives…be the sunshine, not the tornado
- Be healthy, smart, and kind
- Love every second of every day because life is beautiful
- Don’t wait for the rain to pass…appreciate the storm
- Go to bed every night thanking the Universe for everything you have and everything you are
- Wake up every morning with hope, a positive mind, and a smile
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