Good morning ☀️ Happy Tuesday!
As we all know 2020 was an interesting year and for many it was pretty traumatic, from illness to financial hardships it tested the strength of the human population over and over again. It certainly was one for the books and we will never forget the moments of the infamous 2020. But, as I’ve said before for me personally (and I’m sure for many others) it was an inspirational, eye opening year filled with a lot of creativity and thought. I like to see the positives at the end of the year and not the negatives. I realized when entering into 2021 what I need to be happy and what I can simply live without. One thing, that I realized I can live without is social media. Although I do use it, I’m not exactly in love with social media platforms. I’ve never been shy about this, but as I get older I really can’t deal with the social media world. I love my blog (which, in my opinion, doesn’t really count), I tolerate Facebook, and I really dislike Instagram. Twitter I’ve never even used. I always want to say twat instead of tweet, excuse my language. It seems like a complete waste of time. Snapchat seems like an invasion of privacy and way too invasive (I also have never used Snapchat).
After high school ended I deleted my immensely popular and well-liked Instagram page and I only used Facebook occasionally, posting important photo updates and little blurbs about my lifestyle, achievements, etc. and I had never been happier. I decided to make a new Instagram after I ended things with my abusive ex, because it was a nice distraction, but after becoming a mama and meeting my now husband, I completely lost interest in social media. I try to post on Facebook frequently, because a lot of people in my life who mean the world to me, who I haven’t seen since before COVID-19 follow me on Facebook, but I am absolutely the worst when it comes to Instagram. I post every once in a blue moon (if I even remember) and I never post at the right times. Yes, there are certain times of day and week that you’re supposed to post, which gains you the most likes. I don’t care about likes, nor do I have the time to think about what time to post on social media, haha. This is why it just isn’t for me. Some men and women live for social networks and they’re amazing at what they do, because it’s primarily all that they do, but it just isn’t the lifestyle I want or need. I actually enjoy my privacy and the fact that I don’t share every selfie, thought, and intimate moment on social media. I’d like to think I still possess some mystery and can keep my friends and followers wondering.
During the past month or so I’ve read a lot of stories from moms, young women, older women, young men, and older men who’ve pulled the plug and removed themselves from the toxic and crazy social media world. A lot of these stories were written by people who still have blogs, like myself, but they’re off of social media for good. They all had one thing in common after unplugging…they were happier! Some decided to unplug due to a trauma they experienced, the political climate, or a change in lifestyle, but regardless, they’re all happier and feel at peace. I’ve been saying this for years, that social media does more harm than good. I watch relationships, friendships, and stable lives become blurred because of social media. I see girls desperately grasping for likes and attention, men betraying their wives and girlfriends by liking another female’s photos, and businesses being attacked on township pages. What’re we all doing on social media? What do any of us gain from the weird, chaotic world? Can you cut back or completely live without it?
The life in front of you is real and you have nothing to prove. Likes don’t dictate who you are and you shouldn’t need likes in order to feel successful, beautiful, or amazing. Also, if you’re always on your phone you’re going to miss life happening right in front of you. I get it. In today’s high-tech world it’s very hard to completely unplug, but I’ve decided to pull the plug like so many others have for the simple reason that my daily life is truly beautiful and I don’t feel the need to be on social media in order to be happy. It’s something I can live without.
I’ve decided to stay away from Instagram completely and to delete the app from my phone, because I feel that it doesn’t contribute anything positive to anyone’s daily life. It’s very fake to me, which doesn’t fit my lifestyle, or who I am as a person. I started asking myself awhile back before everything I do, buy, etc., “Does this support the lifestyle I’ve created for myself?” and the answer is no, Instagram doesn’t. My account will still be there, if you follow me, but there won’t be any new posts. Sorry, not sorry. I’ll be posting photo updates on Facebook occasionally, but don’t freak out if you don’t see me on FB very often. Yes, I’m alive and thriving. I’ve decided to cut back on FB immensely, because I’m busy and I want to fill any blank moments with writing, reading, and my school work opposed to social media. My blog will always be my place to inspire and I love my readers, so don’t worry…my blog isn’t going anywhere. If you’re someone who reads my blog weekly but you don’t follow me, remember to follow me so that you receive updates via email every time a new blog entry goes live.
Ask yourself what makes you the happiest and I bet social media doesn’t make that list. It’s a decision that is totally up to you, but I’m ready to unplug. Are you?