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Hi, chickies! How is it already Wednesday? I feel as though this week is blowing passed me at an alarming speed. I am busy this week farm sitting for a pet sitting client and preparing our schedule for the next month, or so for our exterior home improvement company. We are booked until June, so it is busy, to say the least! I’m excited for not only Mother’s Day weekend, but also for May 11th (our wedding anniversary). Andrew and I will be married for three years as of May 11th, which is amazing. I love our story and every day spent with him has been truly perfect. He’s my best friend and I thank the Universe constantly for leading me to him after years of heartache.

Met Gala Review

Anyone who knows me knows that I have a very close relationship with fashion. I worked in the fashion and marketing world from age sixteen (starting at PacSun) until 2019 (ending as the Marketing Assistant for an upscale shopping and dining plaza near me). I took a break from that industry after becoming a mommy because I wanted to be home with Greyson. I didn’t want to miss a second and it was the best decision I ever made for myself. I am graduating this month from Parson’s Fashion Business certification program and it has been a beautiful journey. Fashion is a way to tell our story without having to speak and clothes have saved my life more times than I can count. I may not have always been in the best place emotionally, but I always felt as though fashion was my armor and my strength. The Met Gala is a very foreign, far-away concept to many of us, but it’s almost as exciting as Fashion Week to those of us who live for fashion moments. I study the Met Gala fashion looks the next day as if I’m taking an exam on each garment! First off, I think that at times the event is much like a circus and a little ridiculous when we think about what’s happening around the world today, such as the devastating and heartbreaking war in Ukraine, and the constant acts of gun violence in our country every day, but fashion is a wonderful breather in-between moments of crisis. Fashion is something light and fun to focus our energy on and I am happy to judge over-the-top outfits and turn the news off for a few days.

Social media is instantly flooded with images of extravagant gowns and gorgeous makeup looks and we are hooked. The theme of the Met Gala this year was the Gilded Age and for some, that means absolutely nothing, because they don’t know anything about the Gilded Age. Here’s a quick textbook lesson about the interesting age that was chosen as this year’s theme…

In United States history, the Gilded Age was an era that lasted from around 1870 to 1900 and it was a time of immense economic growth. When it comes to fashion, this era was known for extravagance. Jewels, silk, velvet, and satin were popular during this time. It was a time for excess and the famous bustle. It was a gorgeous fashion period. I love a corset and bustle, although I’m happy I don’t have to wear either, especially in the summer heat. There was day looks for a woman including a morning dress and a tea gown. Evenings were more decadent and consisted of balls and social events for the upper-class families.

Some celebrities wowed on the red carpet at the Met Gala and others disappointed, which is always the case. Also, some didn’t put enough thought and care into the theme (or they didn’t understand the theme). I love a theme and if you give me a time period to dress for I will show up and show out for that fashion period. I would love to have a Regency Era-inspired party, where we all dress like the cast of Bridgerton, one of my favorite shows. I saw many looks on the red carpet that caught my attention, but my jaw dropped for only a few.

My absolute favorite fashion moment from the night was Blake Lively’s gown and the amazing reveal that occurred on the red carpet. She wore a Versace gown that paid tribute to New York City architecture, and for someone like me who adores New York, I appreciated that. I also thought it was fitting, since she played the role of our favorite Upper East Sider on Gossip Girl for many years. It was a walking tribute to my favorite city. The Empire State Building, Lady Liberty, and Grand Central Station were represented in her dress. Her gown was a shimmery art piece of copper color, which represented Lady Liberty in 1876, and then the gown became a Lady Liberty blueish-green (as we now know the famous statue). The reveal showcased the process of oxidation that occurs to copper turning it greenish-blue, which happened to Lady Liberty over time. She was originally a copper-colored statue, towering as a beautiful symbol of liberty. She still stands tall and true; one of our most beloved landmarks.

The train of the gown had embroidery on it that paid homage to the ceiling in Grand Central, featuring the zodiac constellations. Blake didn’t forget about our favorite NYC landmark, the Empire State Building. Blake pointed out the architecture of the Empire State Building present in her breathtaking gown. She even wore a partially oxidized copper tiara with seven spikes, enhancing her Lady Liberty-inspired look. Blake understood the assignment and she is in my opinion one of the most influential fashion icons of my time. She always looks beautiful and elegant, which is the way to do it. Thank you Blake for this beautiful, inspirational fashion moment.

Another celebrity that made my jaw drop was Vanessa Hudgens, who looked dramatic and like a dark angel on the red carpet. Her gown was Moschino, all black, and almost completely sheer. The sleeves were a perfect Gilded Age silhouette (puffy) and the high neckline was beautiful. I thought she took a risk, but in a poetic way, which I appreciate. She is not someone I follow religiously or pay too much attention to, but she wowed at the Met Gala and I was completely impressed by her gown.

I am in love with the Lanvin gown that Claire Danes wore and I adore the fact that it was subtle, especially compared to some of the other looks on the red carpet. The color was a subtle yellow and she wore a black netted veil, which is always an attention grabber. She looked very elegant and I thought the elegance fit the theme. The dramatic ruffle of the skirt and the lace bodice also paid tribute to the Gilded Age. I love a train that follows you as you walk and her gown had that perfect train moment. It floated behind her. The gown was a moment and I live for the light lemon color.

Now, I am not going to dedicate a paragraph to each of my least favorite looks, but I do need to dedicate a paragraph (or a few) to one look that truly left a bad taste in my mouth. As many of us know, Kim K wore Marilyn Monroe’s iconic “Happy birthday, Mr. President” dress to the Met Gala and apparently she lost about 16 pounds to fit into it, which sounds super unhealthy, and I hate that she said that publicly when most of her fans are impressionable young girls and women. This gown is one of Marilyn’s most iconic looks and she wore it on a night when she sang to JFK, in front of a huge audience, and it was considered a dazzling, but quite scandalous look. The event took place right before JFK’s 45th birthday and was hosted at Madison Square Garden. Marilyn was having an intense affair with JFK and this dress sparked rumors that night, especially since Jackie Kennedy didn’t attend the event, which I don’t blame her for. When the elegant Jackie Kennedy heard that Marilyn would be performing that night, she decided that she wouldn’t attend. When Kim K showed up in the gown I was baffled as to why anyone would allow someone to wear such a piece of fashion history. Let’s put the fact that no one will ever be as iconic as Marilyn aside for a moment. Wearing an old dress is risky. Kim most likely got sweat on the dress and she could’ve gotten makeup on it, which happens during events such as the Met Gala. It is a piece of art and shouldn’t have been worn, in my opinion, by anyone but Marilyn. But, also, Marilyn wasn’t just a sexy, blonde bombshell, she was also a very talented actress. We often forget about her talent because we are so wrapped up in her looks.

Kim K is not a talented actress and regardless of her Kardashian name and success, she will never be on the same level as Marilyn Monroe. Lastly, I don’t think she looked that show-stopping in the dress. Considering she almost killed herself getting into the dress, she didn’t look Hollywood at all, the way Marilyn did. She could’ve at least mimicked Marilyn’s elegant hairstyle, instead of going for the look she chose, which I didn’t like. Regardless, I felt offended for Marilyn that Kim wore that iconic dress and I think it was a mistake. I believe that if you’re a Kardashian, you think you can do whatever you want. The Kardashians have been compared to the Kennedys, as the most influential and successful family of today, but that doesn’t mean that they can reach into the past and take a little bit of fashion and Hollywood history to make an entrance on a red carpet. The new documentary about Marilyn Monroe just aired on Netflix, which solidifies the sadness and darkness behind Marilyn Monroe’s tragic ending, which also adds to the fact in my mind, that no one should’ve been allowed to wear that dress. It was Marilyn’s fashion moment. The dress also had nothing to do with the Gilded Age, which isn’t a surprise, because all Kim cares about is getting a certain level of attention, which she did.

I would also like to say that we need to stop idolizing and praising women like Kim K after they publicly state how much weight they lost to look good for an event. So many bow down to her and I think that sends the wrong message. She is always talking about her curves and body, but she had to drop weight before squeezing into someone else’s dress? That is ridiculous. Young girls and women, in general, are extremely impressionable and they are now learning that you’re not beautiful enough as you are and that you need to lose weight before an event. How many young girls are getting ready for prom right now and heard what Kim said? Can we celebrate our bodies the way they are? Look at Lizzo, who celebrated her body and felt confident and beautiful at the Met Gala. In my opinion, she looked WAY better than Kim K, and she understood the assignment of the theme. Listen, ladies, you do NOT need to drop 16 pounds before any event to look beautiful. If you did diet before an event, fine, but don’t fill social media with the news to make all women and girls feel uncomfortable in their skin. Wear a gorgeous gown that you feel comfortable and confident in. Your confidence is beauty, remember that.

Marilyn wore it better, Kim.

Okay, enough ranting about Kim! I give her credit when credit is due, but this look was wrong on so many levels. Below are some of my other least favorite red carpet looks from the Met Gala 2022…

Irina Shayk clearly missed the memo about the theme of the event?
Emily Ratajkowski looks like a badly dressed ballroom dancer at a circus.
I thought Travis and Kourtney looked boring, but out of the two of them, I appreciated his look more.
This look on Paloma Elsesser is not flattering and I felt that she could’ve celebrated the occasion and her curves much better.

Until next year, we will be dining out on the 2022 Met Gala fashion moments (the good and the bad). I will remember the iconic looks from this year, especially Blake Lively’s. I appreciate the beauty of fashion, the story fashion can tell, and the history behind each time period.

Xo

Boho Chickie

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Happy Earth Day loves! I have a laundry list of tasks to accomplish today, but I am taking a moment to slow down and enjoy nature. Every Earth Day I take a moment to appreciate the beauty around me and to give back to our planet. Greyson and I decided to go for a long walk today and to spend some time on the farm with our animals. It’s 70 degrees here today, which is lovely.

Earth Day

The Earth is our home and we haven’t always been the best guests. We’ve littered, destroyed land, and polluted the atmosphere. Many of us spend each day trying to positively affect the earth. Our actions have caused immense changes to our planet and we see the changes in the form of global warming and severe weather patterns. Companies are changing for the better as are many people. I pray that our Earth can forgive us for the damage and continue to flourish. Many companies are aiming to be a net-zero company within the upcoming years. Net-zero, in simple terms, means not adding any more emissions to the atmosphere. We are far from there yet and net-zero is still in an infant stage, but countries are driving change.

I have always had an intense love for nature and I will do my best to nurture the earth. I appreciate the ground I walk on and I hope to positively affect the environment while I’m on this planet. I am teaching Greyson to have a real and true relationship with the planet and to always do right by the earth. There are many ways that I give back to the planet daily and in my world, every day is Earth Day. I compost and Andrew even built me a custom compost area at the farm where I dump my weekly compost (coffee filters, coffee grounds, dryer lint, eggshells, paper towels, flowers, fruit slices, pasta, and more). You can purchase a compost container or build/create your own. I bought a mini, tabletop compost container that is under my sink. Composting is a way to reduce the amount of waste we throw into the trash. Compost can decompose back into the earth and even help with gardening. I also recycle. Paper, cardboard, plastic, etc. goes into my recycling bin and I try to not produce too much trash waste. I’ve been making a very conscious effort to only throw one garbage bag (if that) out per week. I know that as families, it’s hard to eliminate all trash. We have kids, pets, and homes that produce trash, but composting, recycling, and making an effort to reduce trash thrown into our trash cans makes a difference. My husband and I own a construction company and we have a dumpster for our company. We know that debris and trash are inevitable, but please do your best to keep our earth clean and healthy. I don’t even purchase as much on Amazon or through other companies to eliminate the number of cardboard boxes and packaging that I receive.

I fill my indoor and outdoor space with plants. My kitchen is light and airy, which makes for perfect plant space. I have roses, parsley, and basil in my kitchen. I always have seasonal plants on my porch and my yard is filled with plants that I’ve personally planted, giving back to the earth. For cat owners, I started buying eco-friendly cat waste bags for cleaning out our cat boxes. I buy them on Amazon and they’re completely eco-friendly. They’re plant-based cat litter poop bags and I feel so much better using them than a plastic bag. The brand I buy is called BeyondGREEN. I am going to be purchasing some new reusable shopping bags for grocery shopping this week, as well. My old ones fell apart so I’m excited to buy new ones! A lot of places near me are ridding the stores of plastic bags and I appreciate that. I don’t find it to be an inconvenience to have to bring a reusable shopping bag, because it’s a positive change.

Spend some time today going to a garden center and buying a few new plants for your home, by planting a flower or tree outside (if you have the space), or go for a beautiful walk and pick up any trash you may see on your stroll. Be aware of the trash you create as a family and make a true effort to reduce the waste. Set aside time each week to be outside, appreciating nature and the beauty around us. Nature has been proven to improve your mental and emotional health.

Happy Earth Day to our incredible home and I hope everyone has an inspiring weekend.

Xo

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Easter Magic

Good morning loves!

I’m headed to New York City today for a Passover Seder at my brother’s. Yesterday I did all of my Easter dinner food shopping, and I’m excited to cook my Easter menu. This year, I am making my famous sweet potato casserole, creamy garlic and herb mashed potatoes, southern skillet mac and cheese, roasted garlic parmesan carrots, and Andrew will be making his brown sugar ham. We’ll also be having an Easter egg hunt at our farm in the morning for Greyson, which has become a yearly tradition. I hope you’re all enjoying a beautiful, holiday weekend with friends and family. Easter and Passover are a symbol of hope and they’re both a reminder of the beauty of spring.

Easter is one of my favorite holidays and I love this time of the year. The air feels fresh and the days are longer. It’s a time to renew and breathe in the new season. Growing up, we always went to my grandmother Connie’s house for Easter and she made it so special. She would make her incredible deviled eggs, decorate her quaint house with bunnies and flowers, and fill plastic eggs with candy and money for me. I would be wearing a beautiful, girlie dress bought specifically for Easter. It was always a perfect day. When I got married and became a mom, I carried on my holiday traditions and made every holiday extra special.

The most important aspect of Easter in my opinion is filling your home with spring energy and decor. I have a gorgeous, peach-colored bouquet of roses on my coffee table, bunnies greeting you in our living room, and a spring garland draped over the fireplace mantle. I have spring candles ready to be lit and spring accents, such as a white, metal birdcage with two porcelain birds inside, adding spring vibes to our home. All of the plants in our kitchen are so healthy and vibrant, which makes me happy.

Creating a beautiful home and holiday memories comes down to the little details, such as candles, flowers, and an Easter menu. I always create and print out an Easter menu, so we all know what to look forward to for dinner. I get up extra early and set up Greyson’s Easter basket in our living room, filled with presents and a card from the Easter bunny. I set up a little tray with a carrot, or two, and some candy for the Easter bunny, which always makes Greyson smile. I enjoy making each moment beautiful and for my home to reflect that beauty. I always say, creating a beautiful space starts with cleaning and organizing. I clean every day, but before a holiday I ensure that every inch of my home is clean and all of my tasks are done, such as laundry, dishes, etc. It’s easier to enjoy a holiday if everything is in order. Even when I’m cooking, I clean as I go. Organization is key.

I also love decorating our deck and yard for springtime. I’m constantly going to Home Depot and a local garden center near me this time of the year. My deck and yard are filled with plants and decor, which I always say is a great way to welcome the Easter bunny. When you walk onto our deck you’re greeted with flowers, a pretty tulip wreath, and decor. Our outdoor bench is decorated with spring pillows and we have farmhouse touches, such as a rustic welcome sign leaning against the house.

If you’re wanting to add something special to your space for tomorrow, go out today and buy some plants for inside and outside (even some cooking plants like Basil or Sage, which you’ll love to have for recipes), a bouquet of fresh flowers, and some spring candles. Target has the best candles and spring decor.

I wish all of my readers a gorgeous Easter and Passover. May your weekend be filled with good food, laughter, and spring magic.

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Let’s Stop the Mom-Shaming

Hi, mamas. We are all familiar with feeling bullied, pressured, or excluded for being different and daring to stand out, or for seeing something different from our peers. We often disagree with our friends’ political views, what they serve for Thanksgiving dinner, or what car they choose to buy, but as parents, the judgment, bullying, and commentary can be much harsher. When you become a mom, there’s a new term you find yourself way too familiar with, and that is “mom-shaming”.

I’m sure all of my readers are familiar with the term, but if you’re not, mom-shaming is when a person criticizes a mom for her parenting choices, choices that differ from the ones the shamer makes or made in the past. In our world, which is controlled greatly by social media and technology, mom-shaming often happens on social media platforms, or via text message on our close companions, our smartphones. It’s easy and quick to text a mom friend of ours a judgmental text, offering up suggestions that they don’t need in regards to their parenting choices. Why? Why do moms shame other moms? Why do grandparents, parents, friends, or co-workers judge moms for their choices that are very much their own? Well, we live in a society that has taught us from day one to judge a book by its cover and to gossip more than we listen. We learn from a young age that a nice car, big house, and frame-worthy photographs are the mark of a successful family. If a family doesn’t have those three things we assume they’re not successful. We often define success and happiness for others without their permission.

We learn by watching movies and television shows that judging others is normal and okay. The Real Housewives and The Kardashian’s do it for a living. Do we all do it? Yes, of course, we do. But, some subjects shouldn’t be touched on and many of us have manners and know boundaries. Unfortunately, some of us do not. Shaming a mom for her choice not to breastfeed, to stay home with her children, or to be open about postpartum depression is not okay. As a mom, I know that mom-shaming is very real and it can be very traumatic.

I have read countless Facebook posts created by moms openly shaming other moms for their choice of a car seat, stroller, school, and even Halloween costume. I remember reading a post a while back where a mom posted a photo of her car seat, demonstrating with her child in the car seat, the proper way to buckle a child in, especially during the colder months when a child is wearing many layers. I couldn’t believe a mom had the time to post something so degrading and bossy on social media. She mentioned that some moms don’t understand how a car seat works. It was as if she believed herself to be the only mother in the world who knew how to safely buckle their child up in a car seat. Posts such as that one are constant and unfortunately, social media gives everyone a platform to say mean and ignorant comments.

When Kim Kardashian said that she had good advice for women in business, “Get your f–king ass up and work. It seems like nobody wants to work these days.” we all laughed and lost respect for her as a woman, whether we are in business or not. It sounded insane hearing from such a wealthy and well-off person who has been on reality television for much of her adult life, that women in business should all get up off of their asses. Kim K is no doubt successful, and to many very aspirational, but she’s a celebrity that doesn’t necessarily relate to women from all walks of life. We didn’t accept this language or commentary from her, so why as a society do we accept mom-shaming so easily?

We live in a world that judges more than anything else. Social media, influencers, and marketing campaigns make women (and moms in particular) feel like a failure, less than, or uncomfortable in their skin if they don’t meet unrealistic standards. How many of us have seen a perfect image on social media and immediately compared ourselves or our lives to that image? We all have. We see a woman with two kids clinging to her, with a perfect postpartum figure, and we are immediately made to feel that if our bodies don’t look toned and perfect after giving birth that there’s something wrong with us. We see a mom attending an event at a beautiful school and we believe that all mothers should send their kids to an expensive, private school and push their kids towards Yale, Harvard, and Stanford, despite what our children may grow up to want. Mom-shaming isn’t a new thing, it has been around as long as women have walked this earth, but now with social media, we have new and more powerful weapons. Moms shame other moms because they too have been shamed, or made to feel a certain way (although the shamer may not admit that) because of influencers, reality television, and social media as a whole. Social media shares glimpses into the seemingly “perfect” lives of friends, family, and even strangers, but no one has a perfect life. No one is perfect.

We are all allowed to make our own choices and mistakes. A mistake to one person may not be a mistake to another. Mom-shaming can make a mom feel isolated and alone and motherhood can already be a very lonely place. As a stay-at-home mom, I know that some days are lonely and tiring, but we have the most important job of all. We need to stop the mom-shaming and start celebrating all mothers, regardless of what choices they make for themselves and their children. We all have something in common and we often forget that. I have never allowed any level of mom-shaming to enter my beautiful bubble because I simply tune it out and turn it off. I have had people offer up unsolicited parenting advice from time to time, but I choose to listen to my advice. I have seen so many social media posts and read millions of blurbs that could’ve offended me as a mom, but they don’t because I don’t allow them to. A great way to distance yourself from the mom-shaming and the judgment is to log off of social media when you’re feeling insecure or lonely, because social media makes a person feel more alone and more insecure, despite the brief distraction that it brings. If someone in your life is consistently mom-shaming you, stop engaging with them, or tell them how their comments make you feel.

I also choose not to judge other moms for the choices they make. I may not agree with every mom I know or that I meet (in person or on social media), but I will never make them feel bullied or judge them for what they believe in. For example, I believe that children should’ve been masked during the pandemic when attending school or events, if they were over the age of three because it was a way to protect them from illness (and as a country we lost children to COVID-19), but I would never judge a mom for not wanting their child to wear a mask. It is your choice as a mother to mask your child or unmask your child. Let’s stop the mom-shaming and start accepting each other’s choices and differences.

You can only grow flowers in your garden. Stop worrying about what plants are in someone else’s.

Xo

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Good morning dear readers! I am busy doing laundry, writing, and of course, being a mama this morning. I am planning on having two of my closest friends over this evening for dinner and I’m trying to find the energy to make it through the day. For some reason, I am running on empty. It’s cold and windy again in my neck of the woods, so I am cuddled in a sweater and leggings, sipping on hot tea. I hope you’re all looking forward to Easter (and Passover if you celebrate the holiday). I celebrate both Passover and Easter, which makes next weekend a busy one for me. I need to plan and print out my Easter menu, because I always cook for that holiday (one of my favorites).

I want to take a moment to talk about mindset, today. I want to help you all feel a little less stressed, or tired, or overwhelmed as we move through spring. I am an expert on anxiety and managing stress, which comes from suffering from anxiety my whole life and from having to overcome trauma, more than once.

Mindset

Have you ever felt as though you’re drowning under commitments, emotions, or other people’s expectations of you and who you’re “supposed” to be? Do you ever lay awake at night, staring at the ceiling, unable to quiet your thoughts? You’re far from alone. I am having one of those overwhelming days, myself, due to someone else causing unwanted stress in my life. We cannot control what others do or say, but we can choose how we react to their actions and what we do afterwards. Remember, you can always choose to distance yourself from anyone or anything that causes you stress and anxiety.

We have all had days of pure anxiety and stress, days that feel overwhelming. A healthy, positive mindset can change everything and help move you forward towards happiness and peace. What is mindset? For those of you who enjoy diving deeper into definitions and meanings, mindset is the established set of attitudes held by someone. Mindset is a mental attitude. For example, some people have a fixed mindset, one that cannot be changed. There are people who have a fixed mindset on many aspects of life, such as their ability to forgive a person who has wronged them. If you deem yourself someone who will always hold a grudge, you’re creating a fixed mindset, one that you don’t wish to change. Other people have a true growth mindset, which means they’re always willing to learn, progress, and grow, which leads to their success and strength in life. A positive mindset leads to growth. If you view yourself as a failure and someone that will never amount to anything, or someone that will always be a certain way, you’re setting yourself up for negativity and zero mobility forward. If you believe that you’re capable of greatness, success, and happiness, you will find all three, no matter how much time it takes. Growth is essential in life for us to become who we truly are. I am not the same person I was even a year ago, because I am constantly growing and learning.

It’s important to put other people’s opinions, expectations, and beliefs in a box. Place that box on a shelf somewhere and focus on what’s inside you. What’s your opinion on a situation? What’re your personal expectations/goals and what’re your beliefs? Those questions are important because they’re about you and no one else. Another person can often affect our mindset, but only if we let them. You cannot make everyone happy and that isn’t your job. You also can’t force a person to believe you, see you, or understand you. It’s okay to walk away from a conversation that’s going nowhere, or let go of trying to fix something that’s clearly unfixable. You can try forever, but if the other person isn’t capable of growth, you may very well be wasting precious time and causing yourself stress.

If you’re in a conversation with someone whose repeatedly trying to force you to see their point of view, but they refuse to see your own, remove yourself. If you’re arguing with someone constantly, remove yourself. If you’re always defending yourself to someone, remove yourself. There’s an old, Mexican expression I heard from a friend of mine a long time ago that states, “When a person is persistently looking for trouble, they’re looking for tits on an ant.” If someone wants so badly for there to be a problem, they will search for one vigorously, and they will often create one out of thin air. Some people cause trouble and issues, instead of just taking a moment to see the other person’s wants, needs, and point of view. They will pick a fight, regardless of what you say and do, and those people are exhausting and incredibly hard to deal with. Again, you cannot control another person, but you can control how that person makes you feel. Take a breath, take a moment, and move forward, with or without the other person. You don’t need anyone’s permission to move on. I’ve never been someone who enjoys drama or conflict, but I have certainly learned over the years how to handle myself and how to stand my ground. No one will ever back me into a corner, or force me to do anything, including forcing me to believe what they believe.

Success does not mean you’re a millionaire…it means that at the end of the day, you feel completely content and at peace. If you feel that way, you’re successful. Whether you have a mansion, or a tiny home, if you’re happy at the end of the day, you have succeeded. With a positive, growth mindset, you’re allowing yourself to find true contentment and success.

As someone whose bohemian and heavily connected to nature and animals, when I am having an overwhelming day I find myself drifting towards my plants, animals, or a moment spent somewhere beautiful (for example, the beach). This morning I took a moment to care for my plants and it helped with my anxiety. If you need a stress reliever, buy a plant (or two), grow a garden, or take a drive to a nature trail. Nature and the earth have true healing qualities. I wish each and everyone of my readers a peaceful, positive weekend. Remember, you are your own soldier. Protect yourself, defend yourself, and fight for what you love and need. Don’t allow another person, a bad situation, or a moment of weakness to affect your mindset.

Xo

Boho Chickie

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It’s been freezing in New Jersey the past few days and I am cuddled on my couch in loungewear and I have our fireplace on. Monday we had two snow squalls and the wind has been blowing fiercely since Sunday, which is making me ache for sun-kissed days. Today is much nicer, but it’s still not as warm as I’d like. Mother Nature has been teasing us like crazy and we had a little taste of spring, but then as of Sunday, it vanished. Tomorrow it’s supposed to warm up greatly, which I’m excited about. I love the cold weather, but I am ready for consistent spring weather, sunny skies, and warm breezes. Despite the recent cold snap, we’ve been spending time on Long Beach Island every weekend (my favorite New Jersey beach) and shopping, walking on the beach, going to our favorite restaurants, and taking Greyson to the bayside parks. I feel free and at peace when I’m on the island and I forget about all of the daily noise. Life gets so busy and it’s important to disappear for a moment in beautiful places. There’s nothing better than a quiet Sunday, drifting into one of my favorite beach boutiques, after strolling on the sand.

Boho Spring Fashion

I love spring for many reasons, but mainly I love the renewal that comes with the season. I love Easter, Passover, and finally stepping foot into my favorite garden center again, spending an insane amount of money on plants. I love renewing my wardrobe and handpicking some new clothes and accessories for the warm months ahead. Spring fashion is filled with color, dresses, and playful accessories (sunnies, wedges, and fun jewelry). I did some shopping last weekend in Long Beach Island at a boutique called How To Live and the famous Farias Surf Shop. I also bought some new jeans the other day at Target that are so comfortable and cute. I live for Target. I can buy a pair of jeans, ten candles, an outdoor planter, and a toy for Greyson all in one place. Boho fashion is comfortable, consisting of peasant blouses, loose dresses, and flowing layers. Beach boutiques are filled with bohemian options and unique pieces that are perfect for warm weather. As a busy, down-to-earth mama, I appreciate the comfort of boho-chic clothing.

Spring is notorious for unpredictable weather, which makes successful fashion moments tricky. Last week it was seventy degrees here in New Jersey and I was wearing a maxi dress and a kimono, and yesterday it dropped down to twenty-one degrees at night, and I’ve been wearing leggings and a sweater ever since. Layers are your best friend during the early days of spring. I love a loose, short dress with a flowing cardigan when it’s too soon to commit to a true warm-weather outfit. It’s also a great time of the year to live in athleisure, which is made for everyday wear and exercise. Capri leggings are my absolute favorite as it gets warmer, and All In Motion Capri Leggings from Target are amazing and affordable. I run my errands in my leggings and then I come home and hop on my exercise bike. Being a boho chickie is all about self-confidence and whatever makes you feel like a beautiful warrior is what you should wear.

A maxi dress and a kimono are perfect for spring. I bought this maxi dress from Amazon and the kimono from Nordstrom. I’ve found really beautiful clothing on Amazon, but five stars and positive reviews are a must.

I bought this dress at Farias and it’s absolutely gorgeous in person. I am planning on wearing this to a Passover seder at my brother’s.
I am in love with this spring/summer hoodie from Farias Surf Shop. It’s lightweight, which means I can wear it when I’m at the beach and there’s a breeze. It looks great with jeans and jean shorts. It’s perfect for any boho, beach girl.
I live for casual, cute sandals and flip-flops when I’m casually dressed. I throw them on to run errands, walk outside, wander around my house, and of course in Long Beach Island. I bought this pair of Roxy sandals at Farias and they’re adorable.

Enjoy the rest of your week, chickies. I’ll be back soon with more of my bohemian life.

Xo

Boho Chickie

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Happy Tuesday, loves! I hope everyone’s enjoying the early days of a new week. When I was younger, I hated Monday’s because I didn’t like going to school, but as an adult I really appreciate Monday’s. A new week brings new experiences, a fresh start, and new challenges to conquer. Monday’s are a reminder that beginnings are beautiful. Tuesday’s are a reminder that you’ve already conquered Monday! I’ve had a relaxing start to the week and I’m just soaking up the calming vibes.

It’s been very warm in New Jersey the past couple of days, which makes me happy. I’m wearing shorts today, for the first time this year. It’s time to get your spring wardrobe ready, because spring is just around the bend. I am already falling for spring fashion and spring must-haves. My home is ready for spring and Easter!

I was walking around Target last night with Greyson and Andrew, and I saw the cutest spring throw pillows, candles, sandals, and outdoor furniture. I bought a gorgeous glass terrarium for my coffee table and a terrarium grow kit, which I’m super excited about. I love my plants and watching them grow.

My Skincare Routine

I’ve always taken incredible care of my skin and I believe that a good skincare routine can help you feel and look youthful, healthy, and glowing. I am religious about my skincare routine and I am loyal to my favorite products. I love feeling natural and I appreciate vegan and cruelty-free products. One of my favorite companies is Pacifica and I’ve been using their merchandise for years now. Not only is Pacifica a cruelty-free brand, but they are also vegan.

Every morning I wake up and immediately wash and cleanse my face with Pacifica Acne Defense Face Wash. I have never had pimples or suffered from acne, but this face wash cleanses your skin and leaves you feeling clean and refreshed, even if you’re not acne-prone. It offers a deep clean with salicylic acid, cucumber, niacinamide (a form of Vitamin B), aloe, and mint. This product leaves my skin feeling healthy and awake. After I cleanse my face, I pat my face dry with a towel, and then I apply Asterwood Naturals Pure Hyaluronic Acid Serum, which I started using this year. It’s an anti-aging serum with nourishing and restorative properties. This product is oil free, paraben free, sulfate free, not tested on animals, and it’s also fragrance free for those who are sensitive to fragrances. It comes with a dropper and I use a few drops under/around my eyes and on the rest of my face. I gently blend the drops into my skin with my finger and I let the serum dry. It’s normal for your skin to feel a little tight and dry after using the serum, which is why you use a cream immediately after application. I use Pacifica Dreamy Youth Day & Night Cream, blending a small amount into my skin, all over my face, and even my neck. I LOVE this cream! It’s light and leaves my skin feeling soft and smooth. After the Dreamy Youth cream, I use my under eye cream by No7. The No7 Protect and Perfect Intense Advanced Eye Cream is wonderful and I’ve been using it for years! It refreshes tired eyes and visibly minimizes any fine lines or dark circles. You simply dab a few drops under both eyes and blend it in with your finger.

I do get a Hydra Facial a couple of times a year (usually in the late fall/early winter and in the late spring) and they’re great! They leave your skin renewed and they’re equivalent to a fresh start. I also use a honey mask on my face a couple of times a week, using only raw, organic honey. You apply it to your face, allow it to sit for about fifteen minutes, and then wash it off using warm water. Honey acts as an antiseptic and antibacterial product. It cleanses, exfoliates, and brightens your skin. It also smells amazing! There are countless at-home skin care remedies that you can try, including lemon, avocado, and apple cider vinegar. I stick to my honey mask, but be sure to research other amazing at-home facial recipes. Another thing that I obsess over is WATER. I drink an abnormal amount of water, which hydrates your entire body, including your skin. Water is powerful and you should motivate yourself to drink as much water as you can. I have water with every meal and even when I go to a restaurant, I always have at least one glass of water, along with whatever else I’m drinking. I don’t smoke, which can cause serious skin issues, and I don’t drink very often. Drinking excessively can also lead to skin issues and irritation. Try to avoid anything that causes skin problems and irritation if you’re worried about your skin.

Something I am religious about and many often forget is the daily use of sunscreen. I apply Neutrogena Ultra Sheer 100+ SPF sunscreen to my face every morning. I even dab some onto my skin over my makeup if I am going to be in the sun for a long period. I also wear sunglasses, or a hat, to protect my eyes and the skin around my eyes from the sun. If I’m on the beach all day I use my normal Neutrogena sunscreen along with a spray sunscreen all over my face and the rest of my body. My tinted moisturizer, which I apply before doing my makeup, is a BB cream by Covergirl that has an SPF 21, so no matter what, my skin is always nourished and protected. I always ensure that my tattoos are protected by sunscreen if they’re exposed to the sun, as well. I love my skin and I’ll always take care of it.

We only have one body. Our body is our home and it is capable of miracles, such as overcoming illnesses and creating a life. I have had a baby, so I know how amazing and strong my body is. I know that no body is perfect or without flaws and it’s important to embrace every aspect of our skin. We all have a wrinkle, or two. We all have a scar from when we were young. We all have something that makes us feel insecure. We also all have a responsibility to take care of our skin and our bodies by being healthy, smart, and careful. Use good quality sunscreen, creams, and serums. Pay attention to what your skin needs because everyone is different. For example, I am not acne-prone, which means my skin doesn’t necessarily need an acne-prone formula, but I am very interested in anti-aging formulas as a young mom and woman. Once you reach your twenties, your needs change and that’s okay. You won’t be seventeen forever, but you can always look healthy and youthful if you make that a priority. Smile lines, wrinkles, and scars tell a story. It’s not a bad thing to have any of those, but you want to look healthy and glowing because that’s the mark of a truly successful skincare ritual and good skin. You want to feel comfortable in your skin.

Remember, although I am sharing my skincare routine and the products that I love with you, something that works for me may not necessarily work for you. Again, we are all different, our skin is different, and our needs are different. I wish you and your skin a healthy and beautiful journey.

Xo

Boho Chickie

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Hi loves. I hope this blog post finds you well. I am so excited to announce that I have decided to start a new blog series called, Boho Chickie, which will focus on my weekly (and sometimes daily) life as a bohemian mama, wife, lover of nature, caretaker for animals, and a farm, and ways to live a freeing and healthy life as a boho babe (skincare, fashion, recipes, home styling, adventures, and more). I now have three ongoing blog series for those who are new to my blog, Boho Chickie, The Greyson Diaries, and Coming Home.

Boho Chickie is named after my bohemian aesthetic and my love for my chickens, which are my favorite animals on our farm. They’re the reason I became a vegetarian and the reason I fell head over heels in love with the farm lifestyle. Welcome to the first Boho Chickie post…

Introduction

Bohemianism is defined as living an unconventional lifestyle, a lifestyle filled with musical influence, artistic and literary pursuits, and spiritual existence. Embracing a bohemian aesthetic and living a boho way of life doesn’t mean you live in a pretty, baby blue van, wander without a true home, and wear a flowered headband every day, although that sounds magical. Being bohemian, in my opinion, is more a state of mind and a spiritual way of living your life. Caring for the earth and giving back to the earth through composting, planting flowers and trees, growing your herbs and vegetables, owning and caring for animals, living a vegetarian lifestyle, having a true love for flowers and the beauty around us, believing in positive energy and vibes, and living more for the experiences in life opposed to possessions, is what makes you bohemian. As a boho babe, I believe that every positive vibe that I send out into the world will flow its way back to me, creating a positive and healthy life for me and my family.

I’ve always had a deep connection to animals, nature, and the earth. I believe that mother nature is the highest power and we need to give more than we take and leave nothing but footprints behind. I love to garden, fill my home with flowers and herbs, composting is incredibly important to me, and my farm has become my heart and soul. I’m a vegetarian and I believe that plants are the key to a healthy, long life. I was raised Catholic and Jewish and I still celebrate all Catholic and Jewish holidays, because tradition is very important to me, especially now that I’m a mother, but I identify as spiritual. I don’t call myself a Catholic, or a Buddhist. I am simply, spiritual. There are aspects of a few religions that I believe in, but at the end of the day, nature is my church. At the weakest points in my life, I have found security and answers while hiking up a mountain, sitting on a beach, or caring for my animals at the farm. I have rebelled against societal norms, many times. I got into every college of my choice, including SCAD (The Savannah College of Art and Design), but decided to ditch college and the idea that you needed an institution to be successful. I immersed myself in fashion and marketing at age sixteen and I am now taking Fashion Business courses at Parsons. I will obtain my Fashion Business certification this summer (May). I also own and operate a successful business alongside my husband and I am the marketing and creative force behind the company.

Of course, I am going to touch on bohemian fashion, as a fashion enthusiast and someone with a fashion and marketing background. My closet is filled with handpicked items, most of which are boho-chic (local boutiques, Free People, Anthropologie). I have always been drawn to boho fashion (also known as boho-chic) because it’s connected to the earth and inspired by the hippie fashion of the 1960s and the 1970s. I often wish I could’ve been born during that time period, which is one of my favorite fashion time periods. Boho fashion is centered around neutrals, earth tones, warm shades, and a need for statement accessories. Bohemian fashion is not just a fashion trend and style of clothing, but it’s also a way of life and culture. Free People, for example, is one of the most popular boho-chic clothing companies and those who shop at Free People feel as though they are immersing themselves in that culture and becoming part of something special. Fashion has often brought people together and inspired artists, young people, and those who dare to stand out, but boho fashion is unlike any other style.

18th Century
Modern Day
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Boho fashion is relaxed and comfortable, with a lot of loose-fitting clothing, and immensely artistic accessories. The original bohemians emerged from the 18th Century, during the French Revolution. During that time, artists and creative individuals were unfortunately forced to live impoverished. They wore old and worn-out clothing, in very creative ways, a look that has stuck with the boho-chic trend. Many of these artistic individuals dressed much like gypsies, which is where the nomadic, wanderer aspect to bohemianism emerged. It then became a culture, and not just a fashion trend. As time went on, boho fashion became a way to rebel against societal norms and stand out, which inspired the hippies in the ‘60s and ’70s. Bohemian fashion developed and evolved over time and by the 20th Century, designers such as the amazing Paul Poiret elevated bohemian fashion and brought it into a new, shining light. The hippie movement truly solidified boho fashion and gave it a new, exciting look and lifestyle. Flared pants, fringe, ethnic patterns, flowered headpieces, and statement jewelry came into play and have remained with us as some of our favorite boho fashion pieces. One of my favorite, bohemian fashion icons is Rachel Zoe, the very talented and successful celebrity stylist, who always wears gorgeous, loose-fitting, embellished gowns, and statement sunnies.

I love boho fashion and at the end of the day, it’s who I am. I even wore a boho-chic wedding gown and a diamond, floral headpiece (opposed to a veil or a tiara).

My wedding day, 05.11.19

Each week I will dive into my bohemian lifestyle with fun, personal posts. I am so happy to be sharing yet another new blog series with you. This one is a little piece of me that I am sharing with you, which makes it extra special. Be sure to take a moment and subscribe to my blog via email, which will alert you every time a new post goes live. Have a beautiful, healthy rest of your week loves.

Xo

The Greyson Diaries

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Embrace the Messy Days

Hi loves! I am so sorry I haven’t been posting on my blog lately, but life gets busy. I wanted to return to my blog with something special and what’s more special than The Greyson Diaries? For those of you who don’t remember, or for those of you who haven’t read The Greyson Diaries before, it is a blog series dedicated to motherhood and my beautiful little boy, named Greyson. I became a stay at home mama in 2019, a few months after giving birth to Greyson. I left my job as the Marketing Assistant to an upscale shopping and dining plaza to live the mommy life and to soak up every moment with my son, which was the best decision I ever made. It’s a little weird at first, leaving the workforce behind, but if you’re able to be a stay at home mama, and it’s something that you want for yourself, I recommend the change. It’s a beautiful change.

I have owned my own company since 2014, Petsitting by Lizzie LLC, which has allowed me to still work when I want to, but I am mostly home and I am truly content. I also own and operate a new company alongside my husband, which is an exterior home improvement company called Killough’s Exterior Repairs LLC. I absolutely love running our company. It’s nice to be able to work from home and since I do all of the marketing, advertising, and scheduling for our clients, I get to use a lot of my skills (my background is Fashion and Marketing). Also, I am currently enrolled in school online at Parsons for Fashion Business, which is exciting, but weekly schoolwork has also added a lot to my plate, so I am looking forward to being done this summer.

I am a stay at home mama at the end of the day, regardless of any other obligations, hobbies, and passions of mine. There’s no job harder than being a parent, but there’s also no better job. I am here to remind you to embrace the messy days and no, I don’t mean literal messes, such as spilled food, I mean life messes. There are days that are filled with chaos, yelling, stress, and sometimes even tears. Yes, we have all locked ourselves in a bathroom and cried. Life messes consist of busy schedules and missed appointments, toddler tantrums that make us want to pull our hair, a few nervous breakdowns and runny mascara, and letting out a scream every now and then. I know how challenging motherhood can be, mamas. I know that some days are so beautiful and easy and others are hard and tiring, but that’s life. We are badasses and we can accomplish it all, even if we need a glass of wine and a cup of coffee to get through the day! I have a very smart, adventurous three year old, and he has his moments, just like all children do. By the way, even as adults we have our moments. I have my cranky, moody days and I know that I am not perfect. I would never expect my child to be perfect and sunny 24/7. Remember, just because your child is small doesn’t mean they’re not entitled to having a bad day, or a few bad days, just like us.

Some days Greyson is cranky and his favorite word is “no” (sound familiar?) and other days he’s easygoing and beyond happy. Some days I have a million errands to run on top of my normal, daily schedule, and I am exhausted at the end of the day. Some days I complain my way through my nightly workout routine, because I just don’t have the energy for it. Some days are chaotic and I feel as though I don’t even have a second to eat. I cannot tell you how many times I simply forgot to eat lunch or an early dinner because the day was so busy. Some days Greyson acts up at a store and I want to yell, but I have to remind myself to keep calm and move on. As mamas, we have to show up and work hard, no matter what. There are no sick days, call outs, or vacation days. Some days we wake up with the flu or a bad cold and we have to push through, no matter how badly we want to just lay in bed all day and binge-watch a Netflix show. Motherhood is messy, but it’s also gorgeous. There are so many more smiles than there are tears. There are so many more sunny days than there are cloudy. I embrace the messes of life and of motherhood because I know that they’re natural, expected, and healthy.

If you lose your cool and you scream when your child is disobeying you, that’s okay. You can explain to your child that even mommy gets upset and stressed sometimes (it’s normal), which is a beautiful thing to teach your child. Emotions are not the enemy. Your child will respect your openness and honesty, especially as they get older. I explain to Greyson often that I suffer from severe anxiety and that sometimes little things are big things to me. I am very open with Greyson and I know that he will come to me when he’s having a bad day and feel comfortable sharing his thoughts and emotions with me, because I will never judge him for feeling the way he feels. Mamas are always told to talk through it and not to yell, to remain cool at all times, and to hide the messes from their kids, but that’s no way to live. Your children even from a young age understand that life is messy. When they break a favorite toy and have an emotional reaction to that toy breaking, when they are sick with a bad cold and their bodies feel tired and overwhelmed, and when they fall in a puddle and get all dirty, they are experiencing the same types of messes that we experience. We are all on the same page and the same team. Allow your children to have bad days and don’t hide life from them. Be there with them to help them through and always be open and communicative. Embrace the messes mamas, because the messes make the clean days well worth it.

Xo

Transitioning From Christmas to Winter Decor

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Happy New Year loves!!! Cheers to 2022…

December was busy and beautiful. I haven’t had a moment to write until now, cuddled in bed, watching The Real Housewives of New Jersey. The past month was filled with adventure, love, and laughter. We went to The Pocono Mountains in December for vacation to celebrate my son Greyson’s third birthday, spent time with great friends and family, had a perfect Christmas at home, I went to the Nutcracker Ballet performed by The Philadelphia Ballet, and we’ve spent countless hours at the farm with our farm family. It has been a wonderful end to 2021 and I am very thankful for the year that has passed. It was a year of fun, adventure, and growth. I am hoping for a healthy, happy, and adventurous 2022.

I packed up all of my Christmas decorations and decor this morning, but this year I decided to do something a little different and special. I left my snow-flocked, artificial Christmas tree up, but I did remove all of the ornaments. It is just snowy and lit with delicate lights now and it looks beautiful bare. I also left my winter decor out (snowmen, ski decor, tabletop snow flocked trees, pine wreaths). It felt so refreshing packing up Christmas and looking around at the neutral colors in my home. I was craving my usual, neutral color palette in my farmhouse. I fill my home with neutral colors (black, grey, beige, white), aside from our kitchen which is black, white, and farmhouse teal-themed. The farmhouse teal is our pop of color in our kitchen and I love it. I do love adding pops of spring and summer colors during the warmer months, too.

If you’re like me and you’re craving some peace and serenity after the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, transitioning your home from Christmas decor to winter decor is therapeutic. If you’re also like me and you love winter and you want to continue to represent the season in your home, winter decor is a must. Who doesn’t love snow, cuddly blankets, and pine trees?

Here are a few photos from the holiday season to show what my Christmas tree and home looked like before I transitioned to winter decor:

Here’s my tree after transitioning to winter decor:

Tips for Transitioning Your Home From Christmas Decor to Winter Decor…

It’s important to remove the holiday colors from your home (red, green, blue, pink). I had my nutcracker collection everywhere and they always add a lot of vibrance and holiday color (and of course, they’re packed away now). My Christmas tree was also decorated in a red and white theme. The red was present on most of my nutcrackers, my three-foot Santa, candles, reindeer, and on my garland which was draped on my electric fireplace.

Embrace your neutral, winter decor. Pine trees that are snow-flocked, snowmen decor, and neutral-colored deer are perfect for winter. I also love ski and ice skating decor. Fall in love with neutrals and wintry whites this winter season and make your home feel like a cozy, snowy cottage.

Throw blankets and pillows can change the feel from season to season and they’re always an easy add on. Again, I always buy neutral throw blankets (white and ivory are my two favorites). Marshalls and Target are my two shopping destinations for throw blankets and pillows.

White and warm lights are perfect for winter, whether you’re leaving your Christmas tree lit, or you’re adding twinkle lights to your space. I left my Christmas tree lit because the lights make the tree glisten and sparkle at night. You can always add twinkle lights to lanterns and put a lantern (or two) in each room.

Remove the ornaments from your Christmas tree! Ornaments are a beautiful, fun tradition, but they’re too Christmasy for winter.

I am madly in love with our winter-themed farmhouse…

I wish everyone a snowy, cuddly, and inspiring winter season. We are supposed to get quite a bit of snow in Southern New Jersey (where I live) tomorrow afternoon and I hope that we do!

Xoxo