Letting go of a good woman

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I know that there are just as many good men out there as there are women (ladies, I know some of you will argue that), but regardless of your views on the male population, finding a good woman isn’t an easy task, just as finding a good man isn’t an easy task. The world is filled with faces, but far too many of them are wearing masks. I was with someone for four years who took me for granted, lied to me, cheated, took the secure, confident girl that I was and turned me into an insecure mess, and in the end, he let me go. He was a tornado who walked into my pretty life and caused havoc and devastation. He still played with my mind and emotions after we ended our relationship in many ways, some of which are too painful for me to get into. I’m in the healthiest and happiest relationship now (soon to be married) and I’m living my best life and I know that what I went through in the past was meant to teach me lessons and make me stronger, and it did. We all make mistakes and no one is perfect in any relationship, but what I endured, and what many women endure, changes who we are, permanently. I’ve had anxiety all my life, but with my ex my anxiety was unbearable. I still think back to the things he did and said and I feel uneasy because they left a deep scar.

Everyone knows of a woman who had her heart broken, has been deceived, and made to feel less than, when she deserved so much more. She may be the reflection staring back at you in the mirror, but did you ever stop and wonder…”What happens when you let go of a good woman?”.

She doesn’t wait for you…

She doesn’t wait for you to come back, change, or apologize. She knows in her heart that you leaving was the absolute best thing that could’ve ever happened to her. She may for a blip of a second think, “maybe if I wait, he will grow and he will change” but people don’t change. It’s easier not to. A leopard doesn’t change its spots and a liar doesn’t become an honest, good person. She moves on without you.

She becomes stronger and more resilient…

She builds her walls back up high and strong, walls that will withstand wind, rain, and snow. Her walls will never come down again, but she will learn to let someone special through her gates one day…that gate leads to a beautiful garden filled with mystery, adventure, and stories. The pain she endured after you let her go only made her stronger (better for someone else) and the scars she covers up with makeup, pretty clothes, and confidence become proud battle wounds. She’s a force to be reckoned with now, thanks to you.

She learns what true love is…

She finally finds someone who changes everything in and around her. This person is unlike anyone she’s ever met and after what she went through, she now knows what true love feels like. She was clueless before and naive, but thanks to you she can see the difference between a diamond and a pebble. She can appreciate the new flame in her life because she went through hell once before and her new love is real, safe, and comforting.

She catches someone else’s attention…

There is no doubt that after you let go of that amazing woman someone else will see what you didn’t. They will appreciate what you let slip away. She will become someone else’s passion and they will treat her like a queen.

She finds herself…

When you’re in the wrong place, wrong moment, and wrong relationship you tend to forget about yourself and what you’re capable of. When you let her go you gave her the opportunity to find herself, explore her passions, and follow her heart. Negative energy stops you from pushing forward. It becomes a distraction and a barrier. She’s now following her dreams, without you there to stop her.

She forgets about you…

In the beginning, she’ll think about all of the memories, forgetting about the pain. She will remember the good over the bad, but as time goes on she will only remember the pain you put her through, and after a while, you won’t even be a thought in her mind.

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Becoming Your Own Best Friend

After you become a mama bear your life changes in a gorgeous way, but there will be days that test you, scare you, and make you question your strength. You need to become your own best friend and during the stressful moments, you need to hold your own hand, take a deep breath, and motivate yourself. If you’re trying to lose the baby weight postpartum and working out isn’t your thing, as you begin to work out you may feel frustrated and tired, but that is when you give yourself a little pep talk, just like any best friend would do, and you move forward. You don’t talk negatively about yourself, or post negative rants on the internet. You keep your mind positive and focused on whatever makes you feel good. It’s the perfect time to learn more about yourself and what you need…

You’re so capable of handling your shit. Learn to inspire yourself and wake up each morning with a badass attitude and a grateful heart. If you’re dealing with postpartum depression, anxiety, overwhelming stress, or any other personal struggle, you need to be your own advocate. Make sure to take care of your mind, body, and soul, because no one else can care for your soul the way you can. It’s very true that no matter how many loves you have in your life, at the end of the day, the only person you truly have is yourself. The fire inside of you will never fade away and it’ll keep you warm, but sometimes you need a simple reminder to ignite your flame. I’m your reminder, mamas.

This isn’t a pretty fairytale, my loves, this is real life. You will never be saved by a handsome knight on a beautiful, white horse, and there isn’t a perky theme song playing in the background as you strut through your day. You are the writer of your story and the artist in full control of the paintbrush; make your canvas one worth framing. It’s very important to stop glancing in the rearview mirror because there is absolutely nothing to see behind you. You change after becoming a parent and that’s normal, but if you constantly wish to go back to who you were prior to having a baby, then you will be incredibly disappointed. You’re different and that’s the way motherhood is supposed to be…embrace it. You may look at photos of you from your high school days, young and naive, wondering where that girl went. Well, that girl is so proud of the woman you’ve become. Every time you’re feeling low or uninspired remind yourself that the girl you used to be, that carefree girl stuck in old photographs, is waiting to see how much you shine. Make that girl proud and be your own best friend. Be the woman you needed when you were a little girl.

The closer you become with yourself and your inner goddess the more open and happy you will be with others. If you don’t love and respect yourself, who will? Being a mama can sometimes feel as though you’re on an island, by yourself, with rules that only apply to you. I love being home with Greyson and going on adventures, but if I didn’t have me the days would be pretty lonely. I have a fire within me, the power to make each day as special as I want, and no one knows what I want and need better than myself (although, Andrew comes in at a close second…he knows me so well it’s scary). Find a lover who knows you and loves every inch of you (even your scars).

When you’re having one of those days when your hair isn’t bouncing and behaving and your mood is a roller coaster ride, take a moment to talk yourself down. Remind yourself that you have the power to make the day ahead of you bright and positive; if you fill your head with negative thoughts your day will be negative. Take yourself out for the day…drink some tea, do a little shopping, and spend some time outdoors in the sunshine, or under the clouds. Do what any best friend would do and be there for you.

Greyson’s Letter

Grey, I love our days together and seeing you smile when I look at you. I love hearing you scream and giggle when you’re playing. Every day you learn more about the world around you and it’s beautiful watching you discover the little things. We walk outside and you’re amazed by the sun, the grass, and the birds chirping. I hope you always appreciate the little things and the beauty around you, because those are the big things. I hope you still smile when the sun is shining and enjoy long walks on cloudy days. Never forget that you’re your own best friend and regardless of how many friends you make along the way (and of course you’ll always have me and daddy), you always have you. Some of my fondest memories from my childhood were the adventures I went on with my animals and the times I colored for hours by myself, with just my imagination to keep me company. Love yourself baby boy, because you’re the best company you’ve got.

Daddy and I will always be by your side. We love you. Xx

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Monthly Obsessions

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Spring is coming and despite the occasional cold night, the weather is heating up! I am loving long walks with my baby boy and spring fashion. What am I obsessed with for April?

  1. Bohemian clothing & style
  2. Grey Fifty Shades of Grey As Told By Christian by E.L James
  3. Fifty Shades of Grey soundtrack
  4. Pink Blush women’s clothing (they also carry beautiful maternity clothing)
  5. Diamondere (my wedding band came in…gorgeous)
  6. Project Runway
  7. Schitt’$ Creek on Netflix (David is amazing)
  8. Victoria’s Secret bridal lingerie (thanks VS…Xo)
  9. The Daily Yoga app.
  10. Nature’s Truth Essential Oils Blend Mist in Rejuvenating Lavender (keep calm mamas)

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Take a page from my book…

I’d like to share my advice for mama’s to be because after your pregnancy journey comes to a close you’re bombarded with fears, questions, insecurities, and moments of uncertainty. So much of your unanswered questions will come naturally and you should never doubt yourself or fear motherhood. There will be days that are overwhelming, different, and stressful, but that is life…it’s no different than being a single person, without a baby. You will always have days that test you and there will always be lessons learned. Learn to breathe and grow through each experience. Becoming a parent adds an exciting, challenging, and incredibly rewarding chapter to your life. Whether you’re using a surrogate, giving birth yourself, adopting, or fostering, the journey will be beautiful. I’m here for you mamas. By the way, I started my blog for mama bears, but I am always here to support and inspire single dads and the LGBTQ community (you are amazing)! If you’re a parent, you can find constant inspiration on my blog (don’t be offended by me using the word mama…that is simply the word that started all of this blogging, creativity, and inspiration). Take a page from my book and find comfort in the fact that you’re not going on this journey alone.

  • Every person, pregnancy, and baby are different. Never compare your postpartum journey (or your child) to someone else’s. Find joy and strength in your own, unique journey.
  • Social media will become your best friend and worst enemy after becoming a mama. You will want to share everything and anything you can, especially when you’re up late (or early), feeling alone, or overwhelmed, but don’t post negative comments about yourself or your day as a parent on social media, because it doesn’t make you look good. Ladies, complaining constantly on social media doesn’t boost positivity in your life…it actually puts you in a negative headspace. I always feel sad when I read negative Facebook and Instagram posts because it’s unhealthy.
  • Smile 😃 Whether your baby is screaming, or you’re in a bad mood, keep smiling. Laughing, smiling, and remaining positive is the best medicine.
  • You need to take a few minutes each day to meditate, listen to music, and breathe. It’s so important to acknowledge your feelings and emotions every day.
  • Don’t fear the future or worry about the days ahead…simply be in the moment with your baby, because time flies. The future will be beautiful, too. Each chapter with your child will be different and will bring inspiration to your life.
  • If you look in the mirror and you feel different, that’s because you are different! Don’t hate yourself for the changes you’ve endured, but do whatever it takes to make yourself feel amazing. Don’t talk badly about yourself, especially publicly. Smile, laugh, grow, and do what makes you happy. Eat healthily, exercise whenever you can, spend time outdoors, pamper yourself, and find your balance. Childbirth changes everything and that includes your body and mind (mindset, mood, emotions), but you will find your “new normal”, as I like to call it. I may look the same, but I feel completely different. Every woman goes through the same postpartum process, but some women let themselves go. That is up to you, mamas. Be strong enough to fight for yourself.
  • Postpartum depression is very real and incredibly draining. If you’re like me and dealt with depression and anxiety prior to becoming pregnant, you are likely to experience postpartum depression. Don’t be afraid of the trying moments and don’t give up. Never be afraid to ask for help, talk to someone, or to fall apart. Crying is allowed. You’re not alone. I worked myself through it, but it’s okay to need a little extra help. I still have emotional days (trust me)! Every woman deals with postpartum depression differently and many face a much more severe battle…have sympathy and never judge other mamas. We all have a story and struggles.
  • Never go to bed angry. Don’t fight with your child, yourself, or your significant other, especially before bed. Bedtime is a time to be thankful, unwind, and to care for your mind.
  • It’s okay to spoil your baby, but as they grow, it’s important to teach your child to be grateful, humble, and sweet. Encourage your child to do good in order to be rewarded and showered with good karma and positivity.
  • It’s never too early to read to your child. I started reading to Greyson when he was a week old and he loves it. We LOVE Barnes & Noble.
  • Absorb positive advice, but don’t pay too much attention to what other mamas around you tell you (especially those who are negative, controlling, and nitpicky), because no one knows your child better than you. Trust your heart, intuition, and what you feel. You must always do what’s best for your child and you.
  • The key to being an amazing mama is to take a few moments each day to be a kid again. Play with toys with your child, use your imagination, create gorgeous fairytales, watch cartoons, and giggle.
  • Avoid family drama by remaining calm and cool. Family can be complicated and messy, but you never want issues to affect your child or their childhood.
  • We all curse now and then and say stupid things, but it’s very important to have beautiful, meaningful conversations with your child from day one (yes, they hear you). They need to know what makes a conversation sweet and true. Your child should know that cursing and negativity aren’t attractive or necessary (but as I said before, no one is perfect, which leads to my next point).
  • No one is perfect…including you. We curse, break things, get angry, and make life messy. Your child shouldn’t feel as though they need to strive to be perfect, ever, and your child should always know that everyone makes mistakes, life isn’t perfect, and the only true failure is giving up.
  • Go on as many adventures as you can! You don’t need to spend a ton of money or go on fancy vacations, but you should drive to the beach, walk on pretty trails, and show your child the world.
  • Don’t be a pageant mom! If your son doesn’t want to play football, that’s okay. If your daughter doesn’t want to be a ballerina, let it go. Let your child do and be whatever they want because if you don’t you’re refusing to let their true light shine, which is the saddest thing.
  • If you’re having a bad day keep reminding yourself that you’re a rockstar!
  • It doesn’t matter if you’re having a bad hair day, or you didn’t have the energy to put on makeup…be the badass babe you know you are, regardless.
  • If a situation makes you uncomfortable, you don’t need to explain yourself. Do yourself and your child a favor, and remove yourself from it. Your gut is never wrong.
  • Print out photos and keep a photo box (or a few), because one day you will love sitting on the floor on a rainy day and showing your child photographs.
  • You can never say I love you too much…say it often.

…to be continued 😚

Greyson’s Letter

Grey, I am so in love with you and my favorite part of each day is seeing you smile. Never allow the world, or anyone to change your smile. Life may become more complicated as you grow, but your light will always be your guide. Let your light change the world and brighten the dark days. You’re almost four months old and I feel as though I gave birth to you five minutes ago! Your birth was by far the happiest and most incredible moment of my life and I’ll always thank you for changing my entire world. Thank you for every little, simple moment. Thank you for filling my days with love and purpose. Thank you for making me a mom.

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Monthly obsessions

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We all have guilty pleasures, favorites, and obsessions. I’ve decided to share my monthly obsessions with you. What are my 10 obsessions for March?

    Function of Beauty personalized shampoo and conditioner
    My new Mercedes Benz GLA 250 #momcar
    The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills
    A New Day fashion line at Target #affordablefashion
    Emma Mildon’s book The Soul Searcher’s Handbook
    Revel Nail Dip Powder D77 Bubbly
    Cloud Island baby clothing (find at Target)
    Chicken & tikka pita (homemade)
    Drinking LOTS of water 💧
    My Dyson V7 Motorhead Vacuum (Fuchsia)

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Get Inspired

Hi mamas!

I want to share my favorite stores to shop for Greyson, provide some inspiration for decorating a nursery, and promote my favorite baby products.

Greyson’s nursery is so light, beautiful, and cozy. I truly love sitting in there and I often do my yoga in his nursery, because it’s quiet and there are little distractions. I designed a room that can transition as he grows and a space that is adult friendly. I chose pieces and colors for his nursery that can last him through his childhood years. My issue with many nurseries is that the room is actually too babyish. Yes, you’re creating a place for your baby, but babies grow incredibly fast, so you want the space to be childlike, but with mature elements. You also want a space that you yourself wouldn’t mind spending time in since you’ll want to play with your child and hang out in there. Buy a rocker or a glider that can double as a normal seating feature as your child grows. Stay away from the bright pink, or bright blue walls (you won’t have to repaint as quickly if the colors are more subtle). Instead of painting dinosaurs, pirates, or nursery accents on the wall, use decals that can easily be removed. Also, it helps to pick a theme that a growing child can enjoy and relate to. Princesses and puppies fade away faster than you’d think, mamas. I also believe that if a child grows up surrounded by inspiration, beauty, and cleanliness that they will learn to appreciate a clean, well-designed space. I used to love organizing and designing my room as a young girl and that trait stayed with me. You are what you surround yourself with.

Greyson’s nursery has a woodland theme (foxes, deer, wood, etc.), with rustic accents, but also a few modern features. I used subtle blues, grey, and white throughout the nursery.

  • The beautiful llama is from Pottery Barn Kids.
  • The glider, lamp, and rug are from Wayfair.com.
  • The matte frames and fox basket are from Target.

I shop at Target the most for Greyson’s clothing because there are super cute options available and they’re constantly updating their inventory. The clothes aren’t cheap but they’re affordable. Cloud Island is one of my favorite brands, especially for essentials such as onesies. Amazon also has adorable baby clothing! Prices are always fair on Amazon and delivery is instant, which is great if you’re shopping for an event or special occasion.

The fox crib sheet is from Target along with the fox themed outfit. We love our foxes so we always look out for anything fox themed.

What are some of my favorite, daily baby essentials?

  • Huggies Snug & Dry
  • Sposie booster pads for diapers (helps to prevent leaks during naps, bedtime, and car rides)
  • Burt’s Bees Baby Bee Shampoo & Wash
  • Enfamil ProSobee Soy Infant Formula Powder

I’ve bought Greyson so many books already from Barnes & Noble, toys from Amazon, Target, Barnes & Noble, & other boutique toy stores that he will enjoy as he grows. I love Jellycat stuffed animals and he has a few! I’m always falling in love with essentials and more for Greyson, but remember mamas…what your baby needs more than anything is your love and attention. Make each day beautiful, fun, and special.

Have fun with your babies space! It should be a room where you can laugh, play, and relax.

Greyson’s nursery:

Greyson’s Letter

Dear Grey,

I was so tired this weekend and yesterday, but your smile and personality lights me up and inspires me. You give me the strength I need to keep going and you remind me of what’s really important. You’re laughing and trying to talk every day, which is amazing. This is the only time in your life when you look up at me and daddy with nothing but awe and innocence and it’s the best feeling in the world. We are your everything and you are our entire life.

The best job in the world is being your mama. Sometimes I think back to my days in fashion retail and yes, I miss it, but nothing compares to caring for you and spending my days with you, always know that. Some mamas may feel as though they gave a lot up to become a parent, but this was always where I was meant to be…with you. I can’t wait for you to discover more. The books you’ll read, the toys you’ll play with, the adventures you’ll go on, and the faces you’ll meet will make each day special. As we near your four month mark I feel excited for the days ahead, but I also cannot believe you’re already four months old. I feel as though just yesterday I told your daddy I was pregnant and I felt every emotion in the book, but here we are now and I wouldn’t change a thing. Keep on smiling, laughing, and learning my honey bee.

I love you always, forever, and no matter what.

 

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(top from Alicia DiMichele’s Boutique, jeans are Levi’s)

Mama’s Favorites

Hi, mama bears! Are you searching for some inspiration for your closet, home, and lifestyle? I’m always here for you, duh. I may be a busy mama, but I always find time to take care of myself physically and emotionally (clothing, hair, makeup, yoga). If you’re like me and enjoy wearing what you love, doing what makes you happy, and filling your life with beauty, then take a moment to read about this mama’s favorites!

Where do I shop?

I love finding new, pretty boutiques, but I have my go-to shopping destinations! As I’ve said before, I am very bohemian (boho-chic), but there are many days I dress sporty/casual because as a mama sporty and casual is easiest. It takes seconds to throw on a tank top, leggings, and on cooler days, a hoodie. There are so many stylish sneaker choices (I love my Adidas and Nikes). In the summer, I wear shorts more often than leggings because I am always hot, but the same concept applies (easy and stylish options for hectic days). Stock up on pretty, simple sandals and flip flops (DSW, Target, Nordstrom Rack, & Marshalls). I still find a lot of time to dress up with dresses, rompers, heels, jeans, and cute tops, but even if I’m playing it casually, I love wearing my favorites.

My favorite shopping destinations:

  • Alicia DiMichele’s Boutique (Marlton, New Jersey, or online)
  • Francesca’s (Marlton, New Jersey)
  • South Moon Under (Marlton, New Jersey, or online)
  • Nordstrom (Cherry Hill, New Jersey)

My favorite shopping destinations for simple, sporty-wear:

  • Old Navy (Marlton, New Jersey)
  • Victoria’s Secret (Marlton, New Jersey)

My favorite home decor shopping destinations:

  • Wayfair.com
  • Target (Marlton, New Jersey)
  • Marshalls (Voorhees, New Jersey)

My favorite shopping destinations for hair/makeup essentials:

  • Ulta.com 
  • Amazon.com
  • Functionofbeauty.com
  • Target (Marlton, New Jersey)

My favorite “hidden” boutiques:

  • Island Gypsy (Long Beach Island, New Jersey)
  • Trendie Treasures (Smithville, New Jersey)
  • Queen Bee Boutique (Medford, New Jersey)

My top February looks…

Photographed wearing:

  • The top is from Target
  • Choker necklace is from Nordstrom
  • Jeans are from South Moon Under
  • Heels are from DSW
  • Makeup is Elf Cosmetics, NYX, Urban Decay, & Maybelline

Photographed wearing:

  • The sweater is from Alicia DiMichele’s Boutique
  • Jeans are from PacSun
  • Heels are from DSW
  • Makeup is Elf Cosmetics, NYX, Maybelline, & Burt’s Bees

Lifestyle…

My favorite restaurants…

  • El Vez (Philadelphia, Pennsylvania)
  • Pasta Vino (Berlin, New Jersey)
  • LaScala’s Fire (Marlton, New Jersey)
  • Bahama Breeze (Cherry Hill, New Jersey)
  • Brio Tuscan Grille (Marlton, New Jersey)
  • Howard’s Seafood Restaurant (Long Beach Township, New Jersey)
  • Riverwinds Restaurant (Deptford, New Jersey)

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