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Let’s Talk About It: Postpartum Truth

I became a mama on December 8, 2018, and my life changed forever in a gorgeous, indescribable way. Words cannot do my love for Greyson and my role as his mama justice and although some women aren’t a fan of being pregnant, I was one of those weirdos who LOVED being pregnant. My pregnancy was beautiful and I enjoyed every second of it. I loved my bump, the excitement of it all, the unknown and learning, and going through the process with the love of my life. All mamas can attest to this fact…we have no clue what postpartum is really like until it becomes reality. We all think we give birth and then everything goes back to normal, but it’s not that simple. The first couple of weeks are exciting, tiring, and different, but there are so many aspects to postpartum that the days can feel overwhelming. Yes, you will still look pregnant a few days after giving birth (it’s the weirdest thing). Your stomach will feel super squishy and different, which is completely normal and your postpartum cramps are sometimes worse than the contractions (menstrual cramps x10). Now, if you have a C-section, opposed to a vaginal delivery, postpartum recovery will differ, but I had a vaginal birth (which is what I’ll be describing), but regardless of the type of birth, postpartum is an adventure (sometimes a difficult one).

You will leave the hospital feeling happy, dazed, and wearing the famous mommy diaper. No, it’s not a diaper, but that’s what us mamas call it. Many famous moms who are finally being more open about pregnancy and postpartum, such as Snooki have been posting photos about the mommy diaper and postpartum life, which is great. There’s no shame in recovering and at your own pace. Daphne Oz, one of my favorite famous moms is very honest about motherhood, pregnancy, and postpartum life. Anyway, the mommy diaper is actually amazing and you’ll be happy it exists. It’s mesh, loose, high-waisted panties that can be pulled up over your tummy and they allow you to wear those ridiculously huge pads postpartum. They’re actually so comfortable and I wish they were a normal, daily trend (the mommy diaper not the pads…the pads are awful). I only wore the mommy diaper for a couple of days and then I just used pads and cute granny panties. But, remember, you will be bleeding A LOT postpartum, for a few days and your number one goal is to be comfortable. I wore loose dresses, high waisted leggings, loose tanks, and cozy sweaters. The first time I wore jeans was a week postpartum and they were Levis (just a little side info).

I didn’t breastfeed (I didn’t want any added strain on my body postpartum) and using formula was incredibly successful for me, but that was my personal choice. Greyson was put on soy formula early on, which must be genetic because I was too when I was a baby. Regardless of the fact that I didn’t breastfeed, my breasts became rock hard and swollen three days postpartum (happens to everyone) and it took about five days for the milk to dry up and my breasts to return to normal. Ladies, be careful when you’re letting your milk dry up…don’t touch your boobs, stimulate milk production (no funny business guys, hehe), or let the hot water pour onto your boobs in the shower. I didn’t leak much (I did buy these adorable heart-shaped bra inserts to absorb any leakage though, which helped tremendously), but my chest felt as hard as concrete…I couldn’t sleep! I slept in Greyson’s room on the glider for a couple of days to avoid bumping my boobs. One night I actually cried for hours because they ached so badly and Andrew was constantly holding icepacks and bags of frozen peas on my boobs to alleviate the pain. He’s a doll.

The first time I got my period again I thought I was dying. I was bleeding so much and there were no cramps, so naturally, I assumed death (lol). I yelled for Andrew and he just looked at me and said, “Babe, it’s probably your period”. I made an OB appointment and they reassured me that it was my first, postpartum period and they’re always horrible. But, ever since I became a mama I no longer have menstrual cramps, which is amazing and my sex life is better than ever…thank you postpartum.

After the initial week of postpartum craziness subsides and your boobs and uterus go back to normal and you find a new routine, where does that leave you? How do you feel about your body, mind, and life? Well, that question is complicated because postpartum is different for every woman, but I hope to help other mamas by talking about what I experienced.

My Body

Postpartum puts us women through the wringer and our society, unfortunately, doesn’t celebrate new moms. We are made to feel as if we need to hide until our bodies are back to “normal” and we meet societies ridiculous standards. That’s bullshit, by the way. My generation is bombarded with social media, materialism, and celebrity influence which can make a mama feel insecure about her progress and body. Again, I loved being pregnant, I was very healthy while pregnant (which helps), and postpartum, but no matter what you do, it takes some time for your body to “bounce back”. Remember, it took nine months for your body to change and create a new life…give yourself a break and don’t rush progress. Very few people are open and honest about their failures and insecurities on social media and in front of others (remember that also). I remember slipping into my Christmas outfit and feeling different. On the outside, I looked like Lizzie, but I felt changed. I didn’t have any stretch marks on my stomach or any other issues on other parts of my body, but my stomach wasn’t as toned as it was prior to becoming pregnant. My boobs, butt, and everything else remained the same, but again, I still felt different and changed. I used to complain constantly about my stomach and the first couple of months your hormones and emotions are on a roller coaster ride, which doesn’t help.

I’m not perfect, nor will I ever be. That’s not something I strive for, but I will say, despite the fact that I will never be “perfect”, whatever perfect means to you, I am very happy with myself and my body. No, my tummy isn’t rock hard, but I’d rather be a mama than worry about my tummy. Ladies, don’t ever compare yourself to others. If you find yourself doing that on social media, remove yourself from it because as I said before, no one is posting their failures. I know many people on social media who boast about their beautiful relationships, that are actually falling apart in real life, brag about their bodies, that in all actuality look like the majority of all female bodies, and who crave attention so badly that it’s uncomfortable. You don’t need to post on social media every day to live a good life. Social media isn’t your real life…your real life is when you’re at home with your loved ones, enjoying every second of being you.

I’m always asked how I “bounced back” so quickly after having Greyson and I always smile, thank them for the compliment, and tell them I’m still bouncing back. It’s not just how you look on the outside, but how you feel on the inside. There are days when I may look amazing, but I feel bad about myself…that is not because I’m a mama…that’s because I’m a woman. It’s what we do! We worry about every little detail about us, critique ourselves in the mirror, and studies show we see a different image than what’s really there. We are the way we are because of society, immense pressure to look a certain way, and of course, social media. We grew up watching television shows with women who never had an ounce of fat on their bodies and who emphasized being a certain way, especially for men. Yes, some women are a size 0, but many women are not that small and that’s okay. I’ve always been petite, but I have curves and I wouldn’t even look like myself if I was a size 0. Also, the women we watch on television aren’t necessarily genetically that small…they have personal trainers who work with them every day and some don’t eat much of anything (that is not a normal life). I am at an age (23) where I no longer care about being the skinniest girl, who likes me, or the likes I get on social media. I love myself and I’m so happy with my life that the little things don’t matter to me anymore and I want all of the mamas out there to feel the same way…just genuinely happy. I am working on me every single day, just like everyone else.

I am a vegetarian again, eating healthy, and I’m finding a workout routine that I actually enjoy. I’m even working out with Andrew! I am NOT a girl who has ever liked working out (if you enjoy working out, no offense but I think you’re crazy), I always hated the gym, and the last thing I want to do at the end (or beginning of the day) is a workout. I’d rather write, read, or I don’t know…spend time with my husband (sex counts as a workout, right?). But, I do love yoga, being outdoors, and long walks. I am adding in a more aggressive workout routine to my daily life as a mama to push myself more, but I didn’t force myself to exercise right after having Greyson. There’s no need to rush back to the gym, or stress about working out immediately after giving birth, and actually, it’s healthier to relax and give yourself a true break. Do what makes you happy and don’t add any stress to your days. Trust me, as a mama, you’ll have enough stress in your lifetime!

My Mind

Postpartum brings on all of the emotions, different (new) issues, and floods your mind with questions. I did deal with Postpartum Depression, but luckily (and unluckily) I was no stranger to depressing thoughts. I struggled with anxiety and depression in my teenage past, so I knew how to talk myself down and I will always be an anxious person. Despite the fact that I got myself through the rough days, if you suffer from Postpartum Depression, I do suggest talking to your doctor (ASAP) because it isn’t easy to overcome the struggles on your own. If you need someone to talk to, beyond a therapist or your doctor, I’m always here.

Depression is not a joke and women suffer from Postpartum Depression in varying ways. Some experience symptoms for a year (even three) and others (like me) hop off of the roller coaster ride after a couple of months, as soon as their hormones level out. Anxiety and depression affect everyone differently, so you can not compare your story to others. The first couple of weeks postpartum I was completely fine and then out of nowhere the anxiety and tears hit me like a tsunami. Postpartum Depression usually develops between 4-6 weeks postpartum, but again that varies. I felt so bad putting Andrew through the emotions, but he understood. My friends didn’t understand fully what was happening late at night in my head, but I kept most of it to myself. I spent that time trying to find myself again. I knew the old Lizzie was in there, somewhere. Some nights I cried myself to sleep hating my body, not understanding why I felt the way I did, and getting angry and stressed out over the simplest things. I wasn’t being rational or at all fair to myself.

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I was working so hard as a mama, housewife, and fiancé keeping everything together for everyone else. Andrew was truly amazing and never left my side. He always made me feel better at the end of the day and he only saw me for me, not the person I saw staring back at me, who I didn’t know. We really are our own worst enemies and we see what we want to see, whether it’s real or not. I was never sad, angry, or depressed when I was with Greyson. My son has always made me feel so happy and full of love and light. It was when I was alone or before I went to bed that my head would start to spin. Mamas, we all go down that rabbit hole from time to time, but you need to know that you’re not alone and there’s always a way to heal and move forward. Even Alice found her way home, but she had to go through Wonderland to gain answers and happiness. I don’t suggest doing drugs and going completely bonkers in order to find yourself (yes, Alice in Wonderland is all about drugs and how they make you feel), but there’s always a path you must take to reach each destination. Motherhood is a whole new world and sometimes your mind becomes a little messy. Take a breath, do something that makes you feel good, and enjoy every second with your child. They want you to be happy and happiness is contagious. I found my balance and “bounced back” as they say and now I am literally the happiest I have ever been in my entire life.

If you’re still going through the sad days, the confusion, and the stress, I promise you will reach your perfect balance. I read a lot of spiritual books postpartum that helped me feel more zen and at peace with myself (Emma Mildon is the best) and I also removed myself from anything that made me feel unhappy or uncomfortable (I am still letting of things & people that don’t bring happiness to my life). I don’t go to places or events that cause me anxiety or put up with people’s bullshit. I am way beyond that point in my life.

Greyson’s Letter

Greyson, you bring me so much light and laughter. Last night I was watching a TV show before bed with daddy and you were fast asleep in your crib. I looked over at the baby monitor and missed you so much, even though I had just spent time with you an hour before. Daddy and I literally cannot imagine our days without you and you’ve made us stronger, happier, and sillier. You allow us to be little again when we play with you, explore places we used to love as children, and read the books that inspired us as little kids. You are everything to me and I love your smile, joy, and kindness. It’s amazing how sweet you are to everyone and everything, which makes me proud. You’re always happy, giggling, and smiling…

I know you watch mama clean, take care of everything, and sometimes stress, but just understand that you make each day easier and you fill my heart with happiness.  I will never let you stress and I’ll take care of the chaos around you. Of course, when you’re an adut you’ll have your own worries, but daddy and I will always be here to help and guide you.

We love you forever & always.

Xo

Mama

Stay tuned for the next entry of The Greyson Diaries 💙 & follow me on Instagram: lizziemognoni

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Lizzie’s closet

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The warm weather is here to stay and so are the cutest styles, which I’m happy to share with you.

Where am I shopping for summer?

  • Altar’d State
  • Francesca’s
  • Alicia DiMichele’s Boutique
  • Marshall’s
  • Target
  • Southern Fried Chics

What are my top favorite styles for summer?

  • Bohemian
  • Gypsy
  • Sporty
  • Western

This outfit is from Altar’d State and I’m obsessed with the bohemian/western vibe! Their summer arrivals are amazing. I’m also in love with their home decor, candles, & gifts.

I’m really into rompers and jumpsuits for summer. As a mama, they’re practical, pretty, and can be dressed up or down. This romper is actually from Francesca’s (from a couple of years ago)…still obsessed.

It’s important to take care of your clothing, shoes, and accessories so they last you for years! I take incredible care of my things because everything was handpicked for a reason. If you love something, make it last.

I’m in love with up-cycled products…up-cycled means reused in such a way as to create a product of higher quality or value than the original. I shared an up-cycled wristlet Andrew bought me (thank you babe) on Instagram and I received so many messages about it. It’s a newer trend and many bohemian, western, and gypsy boutiques/designers, such as Southern Fried Chics are creating (and selling) reworked, up-cycled products to fit their bohemian esthetic. I love it because it’s a great way to honor classic designers while creating something new, fresh, and youthful.

Southern Fried Chics, for example, buys their up-cycled Louis Vuitton handbags from other designers who specialize in the custom work AND who legally purchased the Louis Vuitton product/logo. Once a company buys the designer’s product and up-cycles it, that product then becomes part of the new company name. We may love the classic monogrammed look of various designers, but nothing is better than a designer product with a unique, customized look. No one else will be walking around with that accessory!

I just wore this outfit to my friend’s restaurant (Stella in Ventnor, NJ) for an evening out with my husband. When you’re going out with your love for some wine and dinner, have fun with your outfit. There are no rules or limitations. Andrew and I always like to color coordinate, but of course, that’s up to you. This dress was also from Francesca’s (wristlet from Southern Fried Chics). I loosely curled my hair in about five minutes and did a natural makeup look. Also, how handsome does my husband look? He’s wearing Levi’s, Ray-bans, and a Fossil watch I bought him when we first started dating (it’s engraved).

Stay tuned for more closet and fashion inspiration!

Xo

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Feng Shui in Your Life

When someone says Feng Shui I’m sure you think of rearranging your furniture until your space is balanced, and many of you may think it’s a silly concept. It’s so much bigger than simply rearranging furniture, lighting candles, and buying a new rug. Feng shui includes your home, your car, your workspace, and yourself. It’s not just about making a space look the best for you but it’s also about making your space and life feel the best, including your vehicle, wherever you work, and creating Feng Shui within yourself. Let’s get deep, mamas.

As a mama, I’ve talked before about feeling balanced and at peace to create a beautiful, zen life for you and your children. Well, Feng Shui is one way to help you create the life you’ve always wanted. Feng Shui is the Chinese art, or practice of creating harmonious surroundings that enhance the balance of yin and yang, as in arranging furniture or determining the placement of a house. Some people choose to move to a certain location, remain in a certain location, or remodel based off of how that space makes them feel. Many people lean towards certain colors because they create a mood. Whether you want airy, calming vibes or energetic, vibrant feelings, colors constantly affect us. Do you dress according to your mood? Do you light certain candles (scents) depending on how you’re feeling? If you do, you’re practicing Feng Shui.

I’m sure you’ve seen the yin and yang symbol as tattoos, wall art, and as jewelry. The well-known yin and yang symbol comes from Taoism/Daoism, a Chinese religion and belief system. The yin, the dark swirl, is associated with shadows, femininity, and the trough of a wave. Yang, the light swirl, represents brightness, passion, and growth. Together they create the balance we need to live, flourish, and grow. Feng Shui enhances the yin and yang in our lives, which makes the practice incredibly important. Don’t laugh when you’re repainting a room because the current color creates the wrong mood, or changing your diet to feel more balanced. 

Your Space

Feng Shui in your home is not only essential but it sets the tone for when you wake up and when you end your day, hopefully with a grateful heart. There are little rules to Feng Shui that take a lot of learning and understanding, but did you know that you shouldn’t have a television in your bedroom? Sorry. I don’t make the rules! I’ve learned from others and they’re right. A bedroom should be about two things…rest and sex. If you add a bunch of distractions they take away from a healthy sex life and getting the best sleep. If you can help it, turn off your phone or put it away as soon as you’re in bed. Electronics are not only a distraction, but they have also been linked to insecurities and a negative self-image, which makes sense if we obsess over materialism and social media before bed. There also shouldn’t be any clutter under your bed, because that promotes a bad sleep. Of course, if you have limited space and storage and you use the underneath of your bed for items, make sure everything is neat and organized. You should be able to see your bedroom door from your bed, which means its in command position (you’re in control). Also, make your bed every day…it’s a simple way to stay focused and organized and it’s so nice to come home to a pretty, made bed.

Colors? You can paint a room whatever color you’d like, but each color represents something different and as I mentioned before, brings about a different mood. Neutral, light colors, such as white and beige ground you to the earth. Dark colors make a space cozier, which is great for a bedroom, or an office. Red, orange, and yellow are energy colors that promote positivity, motivation, and action, which would work well in a home gym, for example. Blue represents birth (renewal), purple represents royalty, and white represents purity. It all depends on your theme and the mood you want each room to create. Personally, I always aim for my bedroom to be cozy and intimate (sex, sleep, and renewal), my living room to be airy, light, and fun (friends, drinks, and activity), my bathroom and kitchen to be clean and organized (functionality), and Greyson’s room to be grounded to the earth and positivity (memories, growth, and sleep).

Feng Shui in your home is all about surrounding yourself with clear and fresh energy; you don’t want anything negative or stagnant around you. If you’re still holding onto possessions from past relationships, items from relatives you’re not fond of, or simply things that don’t make you smile…start a donation pile! Feng Shui is about free-flowing energy, which means your space should actually promote change. If you change up a room every so often, even in a very minimal way, that’s a good thing. No, I am not telling you to buy a new sofa every month or repaint every week, but buy new candles, maybe new pillows, and constantly see what works best for you in the present. Cleanliness is also so important and promotes a healthy environment, just like washing your hair and skin promotes a healthy body. I vacuum every single day and I always make sure my home is free my clutter, mess, and dirt. Of course, you will drop a crumb or track in some dirt from time to time, but always remember to clean. Cleaning purifies your environment. Your entryway to your home and to different rooms should always be clean and free from clutter. An entryway is literally where the energy walks in and enters the space and your front door/main entryway is your first impression to the world.

To avoid negative Feng Shui avoid:

  • Blocked doors
  • Broken objects
  • Objects that hold negative or unwanted energy
  • Messy closets
  • Dusty objects and corners of the room
  • Clutter under the bed

Anyone who knows me knows that details are very important to me, such as the details in my home, the moments in my life, and the clothes I wear. Yes, some call it being a perfectionist or OCD, but it’s not about being perfect…I know I am not perfect, it’s about mindfulness and slowing it down. If you slow it down and focus on all of the tiny details you realize what you want and what you don’t, what works and what doesn’t. The same rules apply to your workplace, your vehicle, and anywhere you go. Ensure the space is balanced, healthy, and makes you feel good.

Feng Shui Within Yourself

Yes, you can Feng Shui yourself and it’s pretty easy! Just like your home you need to take care of yourself, which starts with what you eat, what you do during the day, and your mindset. Start each morning off with a thankful, grateful, positive mindset and try to keep that up throughout the day. Eat as healthy as you can and food should always be a celebration. If you’re on a diet that makes you miserable and you feel worse after eating, that diet needs to go. Food is meant to be filling, fun, and adventurous. Drink so much water during the day because water promotes a healthy body and skin. It literally washes away your issues, so put down the soda, or whatever else you drink and swallow some H20. Take some time for yourself, whether you go and get a manicure, take a hot shower, lay out in the sun and tan, or you meditate. Take a breather and remind yourself every day that you’re worth it. Anyone or anything that promotes a negative self-image in your life shouldn’t be there. I unfollow anyone on social media that makes me feel insecure or who are filled with negativity, I don’t spend time with people who aren’t positive and full of good vibes, and I don’t go anywhere negative…life is about balance and happiness. Fill your life with yin and yang and you’ll be just fine.

Greyson’s Letter

Greyson, you bring so much love and light to my life and I cannot even remember who I was before becoming your mama. I want you to remember these important points as you grow into an incredible, loving, little boy…

  • Always see the glass as half full, not half empty
  • Don’t leave a mess in your space or in other people’s lives…be the sunshine, not the tornado
  • Be healthy, smart, and kind
  • Love every second of every day because life is beautiful
  • Don’t wait for the rain to pass…appreciate the storm
  • Go to bed every night thanking the Universe for everything you have and everything you are
  • Wake up every morning with hope, a positive mind, and a smile

Stay tuned for the next entry of The Greyson Diaries 💙 & follow me on Instagram: lizziemognoni

Monthly Obsessions

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What am I obsessed with this month?

  1. Southern Fried Chics Boutique
  2. Altar’d State
  3. Days on my farm (Country girl at heart) ❤️
  4. I don’t know about you by Chris Lane 🎶
  5. Long Beach Island sunsets
  6. The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills
  7. Project Runway
  8. Rainstorms
  9. Reading
  10. Pigtail braids

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Fashion is an essential part of my day to day life, and whether I’m running errands, going on adventures with my son, or getting drinks with my husband, I put a lot of love and thought into my outfits. I go from a bohemian princess to a sporty mom, but regardless of what I’m wearing, all of my clothing, shoes, and accessories were handpicked for a reason. I’m constantly being asked, “Where did you get that?” and “How do you find time to put together an outfit when you have a baby?”. I have shared my fashion finds with you in the past and my favorite stores, but I love keeping my readers up to date. I haven’t shopped for clothing too much lately because I’ve been busy and I think it’s so important to save money whenever you can, especially as a stay at home mama. I spoil myself, don’t get me wrong, but I’m also a saver! Some months I’d rather spend money on my home, new clothes for Greyson, or something for Andrew.

I just bought two bras from Aerie for the first time, ever…I’ve always bought my bras from Victoria’s Secret, but I’m super impressed with the quality and pricing of Aerie. No, the bras do not look or feel like VS bras, but they’re just as nice. I bought a wireless, pink push-up bra, and a black, lace bralette and I’m in love. Aerie is young and affordable. I love VS, but if you want to switch it up and try somewhere new, I recommend Aerie.

Target is KILLING it lately with new clothing launches, beautiful sportswear, and versatile looks for busy mamas. Target has clothing that can easily be worn while running errands with the kids, day dates with your best friends, and also for casual nights out. This loungewear jumper from Stars Above is not just loungewear for lazy days at home, but it can also be worn during the day while you’re running around, or you can dress it up a little. I’ve paired it with a light, olive green bomber jacket, and wedges for a dinner date. It’s comfortable and again, it is loungewear so when you’re home reading a book or watching a movie, there’s no need to change into anything else!

Stars Above is one of my favorite fashion lines from Target because of the versatility of their loungewear. This look, in particular, can be worn in so many settings including at home, at the store, casual outings, the beach, or dressed up for date night. It’s not expensive and as a mama, I love pairing comfort with cuteness.

I’m currently obsessed with…

https://www.southernfriedchics.com

https://www.aliciadimichele.com

I’ll be visiting Alicia DiMichele’s Boutique soon and I’ll share whatever I buy on my Instagram Story, just for you. If you don’t follow me on Instagram, what’re you waiting for? 😉

Instagram: lizziemognoni

Stay tuned for more fashion finds and my favorite shopping destinations…Xo

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Peace and Balance

Hi mamas! I’ve had the most gorgeous month filled with love, happiness, and peace. On May 11 surrounded by the ocean, friends, and family I married my handsome man and became Elizabeth Rebecca Mognoni Killough 💜 I’ve never been happier or more at peace. It’s a beautiful feeling and I didn’t always feel this way. I endured so much heartache, pain, and stress through my teenage years and early twenties, but once I let go of my past and met Andrew everything fell into place. I’m a spiritual person, but not religious. I’ve never gotten down on my knees and prayed to a God, but I have asked the Universe for advice and answers. I’ve looked to the sky for guidance, knowing and trusting that there is a higher power around me. I feel it when I’m standing beside the ocean and when I’m holding my son. I prayed for Andrew without knowing who he was or if he even existed, but I asked the Universe to find that special someone I could love and spend my days with…a best friend, lover, and partner. The Universe gave me so much more than I ever asked for…it gave me Andrew, Greyson, and this beautiful life.

Have you ever sat and thanked the stars above for everything you have? I certainly have. If you’re still wandering, wondering, and wishing, that’s okay. Your journey is forever and your soulmate, balance, and peace are out there, waiting for you. I look back on everything I’ve been through and I understand now that I met Andrew when I was finally ready to settle down. The exes we feel “unlucky” to have known and dealt with were placed in our path for a reason. We were meant to learn, grow, and change. They may have hurt us, made us wonder what the heck was I thinking, and made us want to rewind and start over (where is that damn life remote?), but they made us stronger, wiser, and braver. I definitely cannot believe I used to let some guy walk all over me, make me cry, lie to me, use me for money and an easier life, but now I am so incredibly strong and happy. I knew how real and special Andrew was when I met him because I had dealt with the complete opposite (my ex). We may have days, weeks, or months that are busy, stressful, and sometimes money is tight, but that’s how life keeps us balanced. It’s not about how much money we make or how many vacations we take, life is simply about the moments that make us truly happy. Happiness can happen anywhere.

If you’re feeling lost and unsure, keep wandering babes…you will find your path. The bad helps us appreciate the good. Laughter wouldn’t be as beautiful without the occasional tear. As mamas and parents, we need to always search for our own balance and peace in order to be happy, healthy, and positive. How do you live a peaceful, balanced life? This question is very individual. Everyone wishes for different things when they see a shooting star, need and want different things, and of course, everyone lives life differently. Only you can personalize your life and make it what you want it to be…what makes you happiest? Who do you want by your side through all of life’s journeys? What do you want to fill your days with? There are so many questions you need to ask yourself before you decide how to balance out your life. Think of your life as a blank, empty room…you can make that room look, feel, and smell however you’d like. What color will you paint the walls? What kind of theme will that room possess? Do you want to fill the room with flowers, candles, photos? Are you artsy, bohemian, minimal? You can personalize your day to day life the same way you’d decorate a room to create a zen, happy space. Make a list of what you want and need each day to feel happy and at peace with your life. The list can contain very simple components, for example, many people cannot function without a cup of coffee first thing in the morning. You can add drinking a cup of coffee on your porch every morning to your list. In order for my days to be beautiful, I need…

  • Time outdoors (a walk, sitting in the garden, a drive to the beach, exploring somewhere)
  • Greyson & Andrew (I spend all day with my son and when my husband gets home from work we always spend quality time together)
  • Writing (or reading)
  • Water, fruit, healthy choices
  • My outfit of the day (I need to love what I’m wearing, whether I’m dressed bohemian, sporty, etc.)

My list isn’t very long! Now, that is what I need each day to feel happy and at peace…you can also make a list of the extras. The extras are things that you don’t necessarily need, but they make you smile. For example, I don’t need to see my friends every week to know they’re there for me, but seeing my close friends makes me happy. I try to make plans as much as possible with the ones I love. Some people love doing yoga (me), going to the gym, etc., but they don’t necessarily need to do those things in order to feel balanced. You add in the extras whenever you have the time and energy. Peace also comes from eliminating anything and anyone negative from your life that makes you feel stressed, anxious, mad, or upset. If you’re ready to let go of someone there’s no need to be mean or negative towards them…just simply let them go. Again, if you’re still searching for your special someone, don’t stress, worry, or give up. The Universe has a plan for everyone and your special someone is waiting for you…they will find you, or you’ll find them when neither one of you is expecting it.

Peace and balance are just words and everyone has different words to describe living their best life, but to me feeling at peace with yourself and having balance creates the perfect life. I wish all of you a beautiful week filled with adventure, happiness, and peace.

Greyson’s Letter

Grey, you’re my peace and balance in life. You fill my days with purpose, love, and excitement, and I am happiest when I’m simply being your mama and spending my days embarking on our little adventures. You’re growing up and discovering the world more and more each day, with curious eyes and sweet smiles. I love playing with your toys with you and showing you new, exciting things. Today you helped me take care of our ducks (Gatsby, Cracker, & Cookie) which made you smile so bright. As you get older you’ll realize how important the little things are…the calming smell after a rainstorm, the sun kissing your skin, and cuddling up under a blanket after a long day. The little things bring peace and happiness to our lives, but the big things bring balance. Big things are the events that change us forever, like becoming a parent, meeting the love of your life, or getting married. You changed my life and made me a better person which brought the ultimate balance to my life. Your daddy changed my life by giving me you, marrying me, and for showing us so much love every single day…more balance.

Never forget about what brings you peace, baby boy. The little things and the big things make up this crazy adventure called life and there is so much to smile about. Happy Memorial Day…here’s to being young, wild, & free.

Xo

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Monthly Obsessions

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What are my monthly obsessions for May? Here are my top ten favorites…

  1. Long Beach Island
  2. Long walks with Greyson
  3. Drinking lots of water (continuing a healthy trend)
  4. Yoga
  5. Etsy (wedding decor)
  6. Waterford Crystal champagne flutes (Thank you, Theresa & Jeff 💗)
  7. Marble kitchen decor (I bought a new marble and acacia wood cutting board & a marble paper towel holder that I’m slightly obsessed with)
  8. Ohana Juice Bar in Hammonton, NJ
  9. Rejuvenation Day Spa in Hammonton, NJ (thank you for the amazing massage before my wedding)
  10. Maybelline SuperStay Matte Ink lipstick (Visionary) 💄