Dear Husband…

When you become a mama everything changes, including reality and expectations. I always knew I wanted to be a mom and that it would be the most beautiful chapter of my life…well, more than just a chapter, more like a whole new story, but what I didn’t know was that I would meet this incredible man, who would not only make me the happiest mom in the world but also the happiest wife.

Andrew, meeting you was unexpected, simple, and it changed everything in an instant. I found out I was pregnant at an urgent care after three pregnancy tests read negative (but I knew in my heart that I was pregnant), and although I was so excited and happy, I was also scared. I didn’t know what changes motherhood would bring or what our relationship would feel like after becoming parents. I remember driving to pick up food after telling you I was pregnant and you were so unbelievably sweet, supportive, and positive. Your positivity is what got me through every moment of fear and before I knew it, the fear was gone. Fear was replaced with excitement and knowing that we would be amazing together, always. Yes, I knew there would be arguments and disagreements from time to time, but we would work through any obstacle and we always do. I’m thankful that we don’t fight and that you never let me walk away without us communicating and figuring out whatever it is that’s bothering me.

You were there for me through every second of my pregnancy and you’re still by my side, no matter what. Nothing is ever awkward or uncomfortable between us. I look at you with our beautiful, smart, silly baby boy and I’m so thankful for the father that you are. I wish you could see yourself through my eyes because you’d see my endless, gorgeous love for you and how insanely proud of you I am every single day. When I was a little girl I would envision my future husband, but when you’re a little girl your future lover resembles a prince from a Disney classic, riding to your rescue on a white horse, dressed in expensive fabrics, and too good to be true. But, that image fades away as you grow up, realizing Disney characters aren’t real, just pretty fantasies. When I was in high school, my Prince Charming turned into a bad boy with a nice car, who’d fight for my honor with fists not a sword. As most girls do, I craved that guy who was good just for me. Once I graduated from high school I just wanted a nice, loyal guy who had dreams and a good job.

I always heard that your soulmate often finds you after your biggest mistake and most painful heartache. I never used to believe that was true until I met you and looked back on my painful past. I felt so grateful for the present. Now, as a mama and a wife all I want is you. I would never wish for anything different or take who you are for granted. I always say I wish I knew you earlier and met you sooner, but we were meant to find each other when we did and live out the rest of our story together. I often wonder if you would’ve liked the old, naive me…the girl who drank a little too much, wore her heart on her sleeve, and who sat up all night writing stories.

I don’t need you to have a perfect body and a six pack. I don’t need you to drive an expensive vehicle or wear designer brands. I don’t need diamonds and flowers every night when you come home from work and I don’t need five star dinners every Friday night. I need you to come home every night safely and to always be loyal and honest. I need you to be happy and to always pursue your dreams. I need you to live a long, healthy life, because I wouldn’t want to live this crazy life without you. I need your endless love, smile, and sense of humor (even when you drive me crazy). I need you to continue to teach and nurture our son and to always respect my opinion and feelings. I just need you.

Things change when you become a parent, which we know very well, but change is good. Change is a reminder that we’re continuously growing and learning and I love our life together. Sometimes women expect marriage to be quite different from what it really is, which is a permanent, dependable partnership with your best friend, whose also your lover. Yes, sex is amazing and healthy, but it isn’t everything and when you’re working, busy with the kids, or experiencing other life changes, sex may not happen every day like it used to. Money is important, but it’s also not everything. You will experience highs and lows, valleys and mountains, but if you’re with the right person every day will feel safe and secure. That feeling of comfort and security is everything. Thank you for giving me that beautiful feeling every day and for working so hard for us. You give us the best life and no matter how tired, cranky, or busy I am, please never forget how much I appreciate you and everything that you do.

I love you husband.

Love,

Your wife