Becoming Your Own Best Friend
After you become a mama bear your life changes in a gorgeous way, but there will be days that test you, scare you, and make you question your strength. You need to become your own best friend and during the stressful moments, you need to hold your own hand, take a deep breath, and motivate yourself. If you’re trying to lose the baby weight postpartum and working out isn’t your thing, as you begin to work out you may feel frustrated and tired, but that is when you give yourself a little pep talk, just like any best friend would do, and you move forward. You don’t talk negatively about yourself, or post negative rants on the internet. You keep your mind positive and focused on whatever makes you feel good. It’s the perfect time to learn more about yourself and what you need…
You’re so capable of handling your shit. Learn to inspire yourself and wake up each morning with a badass attitude and a grateful heart. If you’re dealing with postpartum depression, anxiety, overwhelming stress, or any other personal struggle, you need to be your own advocate. Make sure to take care of your mind, body, and soul, because no one else can care for your soul the way you can. It’s very true that no matter how many loves you have in your life, at the end of the day, the only person you truly have is yourself. The fire inside of you will never fade away and it’ll keep you warm, but sometimes you need a simple reminder to ignite your flame. I’m your reminder, mamas.
This isn’t a pretty fairytale, my loves, this is real life. You will never be saved by a handsome knight on a beautiful, white horse, and there isn’t a perky theme song playing in the background as you strut through your day. You are the writer of your story and the artist in full control of the paintbrush; make your canvas one worth framing. It’s very important to stop glancing in the rearview mirror because there is absolutely nothing to see behind you. You change after becoming a parent and that’s normal, but if you constantly wish to go back to who you were prior to having a baby, then you will be incredibly disappointed. You’re different and that’s the way motherhood is supposed to be…embrace it. You may look at photos of you from your high school days, young and naive, wondering where that girl went. Well, that girl is so proud of the woman you’ve become. Every time you’re feeling low or uninspired remind yourself that the girl you used to be, that carefree girl stuck in old photographs, is waiting to see how much you shine. Make that girl proud and be your own best friend. Be the woman you needed when you were a little girl.
The closer you become with yourself and your inner goddess the more open and happy you will be with others. If you don’t love and respect yourself, who will? Being a mama can sometimes feel as though you’re on an island, by yourself, with rules that only apply to you. I love being home with Greyson and going on adventures, but if I didn’t have me the days would be pretty lonely. I have a fire within me, the power to make each day as special as I want, and no one knows what I want and need better than myself (although, Andrew comes in at a close second…he knows me so well it’s scary). Find a lover who knows you and loves every inch of you (even your scars).
When you’re having one of those days when your hair isn’t bouncing and behaving and your mood is a roller coaster ride, take a moment to talk yourself down. Remind yourself that you have the power to make the day ahead of you bright and positive; if you fill your head with negative thoughts your day will be negative. Take yourself out for the day…drink some tea, do a little shopping, and spend some time outdoors in the sunshine, or under the clouds. Do what any best friend would do and be there for you.
Grey, I love our days together and seeing you smile when I look at you. I love hearing you scream and giggle when you’re playing. Every day you learn more about the world around you and it’s beautiful watching you discover the little things. We walk outside and you’re amazed by the sun, the grass, and the birds chirping. I hope you always appreciate the little things and the beauty around you, because those are the big things. I hope you still smile when the sun is shining and enjoy long walks on cloudy days. Never forget that you’re your own best friend and regardless of how many friends you make along the way (and of course you’ll always have me and daddy), you always have you. Some of my fondest memories from my childhood were the adventures I went on with my animals and the times I colored for hours by myself, with just my imagination to keep me company. Love yourself baby boy, because you’re the best company you’ve got.
Daddy and I will always be by your side. We love you. Xx
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