I know that there are just as many good men out there as there are women (ladies, I know some of you will argue that), but regardless of your views on the male population, finding a good woman isn’t an easy task, just as finding a good man isn’t an easy task. The world is filled with faces, but far too many of them are wearing masks. I was with someone for four years who took me for granted, lied to me, cheated, took the secure, confident girl that I was and turned me into an insecure mess, and in the end, he let me go. He was a tornado who walked into my pretty life and caused havoc and devastation. He still played with my mind and emotions after we ended our relationship in many ways, some of which are too painful for me to get into. I’m in the healthiest and happiest relationship now (soon to be married) and I’m living my best life and I know that what I went through in the past was meant to teach me lessons and make me stronger, and it did. We all make mistakes and no one is perfect in any relationship, but what I endured, and what many women endure, changes who we are, permanently. I’ve had anxiety all my life, but with my ex my anxiety was unbearable. I still think back to the things he did and said and I feel uneasy because they left a deep scar.

Everyone knows of a woman who had her heart broken, has been deceived, and made to feel less than, when she deserved so much more. She may be the reflection staring back at you in the mirror, but did you ever stop and wonder…”What happens when you let go of a good woman?”.

She doesn’t wait for you…

She doesn’t wait for you to come back, change, or apologize. She knows in her heart that you leaving was the absolute best thing that could’ve ever happened to her. She may for a blip of a second think, “maybe if I wait, he will grow and he will change” but people don’t change. It’s easier not to. A leopard doesn’t change its spots and a liar doesn’t become an honest, good person. She moves on without you.

She becomes stronger and more resilient…

She builds her walls back up high and strong, walls that will withstand wind, rain, and snow. Her walls will never come down again, but she will learn to let someone special through her gates one day…that gate leads to a beautiful garden filled with mystery, adventure, and stories. The pain she endured after you let her go only made her stronger (better for someone else) and the scars she covers up with makeup, pretty clothes, and confidence become proud battle wounds. She’s a force to be reckoned with now, thanks to you.

She learns what true love is…

She finally finds someone who changes everything in and around her. This person is unlike anyone she’s ever met and after what she went through, she now knows what true love feels like. She was clueless before and naive, but thanks to you she can see the difference between a diamond and a pebble. She can appreciate the new flame in her life because she went through hell once before and her new love is real, safe, and comforting.

She catches someone else’s attention…

There is no doubt that after you let go of that amazing woman someone else will see what you didn’t. They will appreciate what you let slip away. She will become someone else’s passion and they will treat her like a queen.

She finds herself…

When you’re in the wrong place, wrong moment, and wrong relationship you tend to forget about yourself and what you’re capable of. When you let her go you gave her the opportunity to find herself, explore her passions, and follow her heart. Negative energy stops you from pushing forward. It becomes a distraction and a barrier. She’s now following her dreams, without you there to stop her.

She forgets about you…

In the beginning, she’ll think about all of the memories, forgetting about the pain. She will remember the good over the bad, but as time goes on she will only remember the pain you put her through, and after a while, you won’t even be a thought in her mind.